313 - Stop Chasing Balance And Become The CEO Of Your Household With Tiffany Sauder The Calm Mom - Burnout, Anxiety, Nervous System, Mindset, Self-Care, Parenting, Work-Life Balance podcast

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Ever catch yourself reacting to your kids in a way that shocks you? Maybe you hear your own mother’s voice coming out of your mouth, or you feel like you’re constantly walking the tightrope between patience and losing it. You’re not crazy. You’re not failing. And you’re definitely not alone. The truth is, unresolved experiences from your past don’t just disappear—they live in your body, shaping the way you respond to stress, relationships, and, yes, parenting. And until you recognize what’s happening under the surface, you’ll keep repeating the same patterns, no matter how much you “know better.” That’s why I’m sitting down with Dr. Chinwé Williams, a trauma therapist, EMDR specialist, and bestselling author, to unpack how past experiences influence our nervous system, emotions, and the way we show up as parents. If you’ve ever felt like you’re carrying invisible weight, or you find yourself snapping, shutting down, or over-controlling (even when you don’t want to), this conversation is going to be a game-changer We unpack what trauma really is, how it manifests in our bodies, and how it influences the way we show up as mothers, partners, and professionals. 3 Things You’ll Learn in This Episode: What Trauma Really Is – It’s not just the “big” stuff. Chronic stress, emotional neglect, or even parents’ high expectations can shape your nervous system. How Your Past Shows Up in Parenting – Unresolved trauma can resurface in emotional triggers, parenting patterns, and unexpected reactions to your child’s behavior. Ways to Regulate Your Nervous System – Learn simple, effective strategies to calm your body and model emotional resilience for your children. You can break the cycle. You can rewrite the script. And it starts here. Hit play, and let’s talk about it. 🎧💛 🔗 Connect with Dr. Chinwé: Website: drchinwewilliams.com Instagram: @dr.chinwewilliams Related Episodes: Previous Episode Overcoming Trauma and Discovering Your Courage for Change Surprising Ways We’ve All Experienced Childhood Trauma – 3 Categories of Trauma and Toxic Stress How Helicopter Parenting is Impacting Your Kids Co-Parenting? 4 Steps to Move out of Toxic Communication, Conflict, & Chaos 5 Surprising Ways Anxiety Can Show Up in Parenting >>> REGISTER FOR THE CALM & COLLECTED WORKSHOP <<< >>> 💌 DOWNLOAD THE NERVOUS SYSTEM RESET GUIDE <<<…

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336 - The Productivity Trap: This Is Why Being Busy Isn’t Moving You Forward 21:31

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Do you ever feel like you’re constantly busy but never truly productive? Your to-do list is endless, you’re always running from one task to the next, and yet, at the end of the day, it feels like you haven’t really moved the needle on what actually matters. If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone. In today’s episode, we’re breaking down why busyness isn’t the same as productivity—and why understanding this is crucial to creating a stress-free, fulfilling life. The truth is, constantly being in “go mode” keeps your nervous system stuck in a state of reactivity, making it harder to focus, prioritize, and accomplish meaningful work. If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing more but achieving less , it’s time to shift from just checking boxes to true, intentional productivity. Listen in to learn: Why stress hijacks your brain and keeps you trapped in the cycle of busyness The difference between reactive busyness and true, fulfilling productivity How regulating your nervous system can help you work smarter—not harder—so you can finally feel calm, focused, and in control of your time. Related Links: Previous Episode Cure Your Busy Brain: The Protocol to Calm an Anxious Mind Unlock Inner Peace: 5 Strategies for Busy Moms Breaking Busy: 5 Reasons Why You Might Struggle with Rest Time with God as Busy Mom: How Prioritizing a Spiritual Practice Helps Calm the Chaos Get Organized! How Busy Moms Reduce Clutter & Manage Their Time >>> REGISTER FOR THE CALM & COLLECTED WORKSHOP <<< >>> 💌 DOWNLOAD THE NERVOUS SYSTEM RESET GUIDE <<<…

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335 - Do You Have These 3 Signs of Mom Burnout? Here’s How to Reclaim Your Energy 27:16

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You love your kids more than life itself… so why does everything they do feel like nails on a chalkboard lately? Why are you so exhausted before the day even starts? Why does it feel like you’re carrying the entire weight of your family’s existence while no one else seems to notice? If that sounds familiar, you’re not just tired—you might be in mom burnout. It’s full-blown nervous system dysregulation—your brain and body stuck in overdrive, running on stress hormones, and leaving you physically, mentally, and emotionally fried. But here’s the good news: burnout isn’t permanent. And you don’t have to “push through” or wait for some magical day when life slows down. You can start healing now. Listen in to learn: ✅ The 3 biggest signs of mom burnout (that you might be brushing off as “normal”) ✅ How chronic stress is rewiring your nervous system—and what that means for your patience, energy, and memory ✅ Small, realistic steps you can take today to start healing and regulating your nervous system If you’ve been telling yourself, “This is just my life now,” I promise you—it doesn’t have to be this way forever. Let’s dive in and start making real changes. Related Links: Previous Episode Get Organized! How Busy Moms Reduce Clutter & Manage Their Time Sober Curious? Sneaky Ways Mommy Wine Culture is Impacting Your Nervous System Working Mom’s Survival Guide: 8 Lessons for Work-Life Balance Put Your Lists Away! Effective Time Management, Organization and Productivity for Moms Recognizing Burnout: 6 Critical Symptoms You Might Be Overlooking >>> REGISTER FOR THE CALM & COLLECTED WORKSHOP <<< >>> 💌 DOWNLOAD THE NERVOUS SYSTEM RESET GUIDE <<<…

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334 - 3 Reasons Perfectionism Is Keeping You Overwhelmed (and How to Break Free) 23:46

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Do you wear perfectionism like a badge of honor? Maybe you tell yourself that it’s the reason you’re successful—the thing that keeps you disciplined, polished, and ahead of the game. That being meticulous is what sets you apart. But let’s be real—what has perfectionism also given you? Overthinking? Anxiety? A chronic sense that no matter what you accomplish, it’s never quite enough? Perfectionism isn’t actually a flex—it’s a stress response. And if you’ve been wearing it like a badge of honor, it might be the very thing keeping you stuck. In this episode, we’ll break down: 🔥 How perfectionism keeps you playing small, not helping you grow 🧠 How your nervous system reinforces perfectionism(spoiler: you can rewire it) 💡 The sneaky ways perfectionism blocks learning, growth, & creativity 🔑 Simple, body-based strategies to break the cycle and ewire your brain for resilience, confidence, and ease How about we stop letting perfectionism call the shots? Listen in, and let’s start unlearning the patterns that are keeping you overwhelmed, overworked, and over it. 💛 >>> REGISTER FOR THE CALM & COLLECTED WORKSHOP <<< >>> 💌 DOWNLOAD THE NERVOUS SYSTEM RESET GUIDE <<<…

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333 - 4 Key Factors That Determine How You Handle Hardship with Dr. Neeta Bhushan 45:13

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For us high-achievers, we often think of resilience as pushing through, powering on, and handling it all. But what if true resilience isn’t about white-knuckling your way through hardship—but about allowing yourself to soften, heal, and bounce forward instead of just back? In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Neeta Bhushan, author of That Sucked, Now What? , to talk about what it really takes to move through life’s hardest moments. Dr. Neeta’s story is one of profound loss—losing her mother, father, and brother before she turned 19—and the journey she took to rebuild herself while navigating perfectionism, high-achiever pressure, and cultural expectations. But this isn’t just about survival. It’s about rewriting the way we think about resilience, breaking generational cycles, and learning how to meet life’s challenges without burning ourselves out in the process. We talk about redefining strength, breaking generational patterns, and the tension between raising resilient kids while also protecting them from pain. 🔥 Three Things You’ll Learn in This Episode: The Truth About Resilience—Why it’s not about toughening up, but about allowing yourself to feel, soften, and receive support. The Bounce Factor—The four key factors that determine how well you recover from hardship (and how to build more resilience starting today). Parenting & Resilience—How to foster grit and independence in your kids without tough love or suppressing their emotions. If you’ve been navigating grief, burnout, or just trying to figure out how to keep going when life feels heavy —this episode is for you. Connect with Dr. Neeta: Dr. Neeta's Instagram Watch Dr. Neeta on Youtube Dr. Neeta's Book - That Sucked. Now What? >>> REGISTER FOR THE CALM & COLLECTED WORKSHOP <<< >>> 💌 DOWNLOAD THE NERVOUS SYSTEM RESET GUIDE <<<…

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332 - 4 Signs You’re Addicted to Cortisol (and How to Fix It) 23:52

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Are you addicted to stress? Ever feel like you’re powered by adrenaline until you hit a wall—drained, anxious, and totally off? It might be more than just a busy day. Your body can actually get addicted to stress. Cortisol, the hormone fueling your fight-or-flight response, can keep you stuck in overdrive, even when you’re juggling a million things. In today’s episode, I’m uncovering 4 signs you might be addicted to cortisol and sharing simple, actionable shifts to help reset your nervous system. If you’re ready to break free from that chronic stress cycle and reclaim your energy, hit play now! Listen in to learn: ✅ Why high cortisol feels productive but leads to burnout ✅ 4 everyday habits that signal cortisol addiction ✅ How to reset your stress response and reclaim your energy I break down why cortisol addiction happens, and share powerful tips to support your circadian rhythm, fuel your body right, and set the boundaries your nervous system needs to shift out of fight-or-flight mode. Ready to stop running on stress and start thriving with real, lasting energy? Let’s get into it! >>> REGISTER FOR THE CALM & COLLECTED WORKSHOP <<< >>> 💌 DOWNLOAD THE NERVOUS SYSTEM RESET GUIDE <<<…

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331 - Transform Your Evening Routine: The 9pm Rule & 4 Nighttime Habits 30:51

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Do your evenings look anything like this? Finally get the kids to bed and then… 📱 Scrolling endlessly while the clock ticks past bedtime… 😩 Mentally running through tomorrow’s to-do list… 🍷 Reaching for that glass of wine, hoping it’ll take the edge off… And yet, when you finally get in bed, your brain won’t shut off. In today’s episode, I’m sharing my 9PM Rule—a simple, science-backed evening routine designed to help you shift from stress to deep, restorative calm. These four steps (plus a bonus!) are small but powerful tweaks that train your body to feel safe enough to fully unwind. No drastic life overhauls—just intentional habits that signal to your nervous system: We’re done for the day. It’s time to rest. Listen in to learn: Why your nervous system struggles to wind down at night (and how to fix it) The 4-part 9PM Rule that shifts you out of stress mode before bed A simple nighttime drink swap that helps you sleep deeper and wake up refreshed Try these steps for one week and see how your nights—and mornings—transform. >>> REGISTER FOR THE CALM & COLLECTED WORKSHOP <<< >>> 💌 DOWNLOAD THE NERVOUS SYSTEM RESET GUIDE <<<…

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330 - 3 Somatic Practices for Anxiety: Why They Work & How to Do Them 20:50

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Have you ever told yourself “just calm down” knowing full well that saying it isn’t going to do much to help? Newsflash: Anxiety isn’t a mind game—it’s a full-body takeover. If you’ve tried to outsmart it with logic, you already know that simply “thinking” your way out of anxiety never works. Your nervous system craves real, body-based signals of safety. In today’s episode, I’m serving up 3 powerful somatic practices that kick anxiety to the curb—fast. No marathon meditation sessions here, just quick, effective moves that work with your body, not against it. Listen in to learn: ✅ Why anxiety lives in your body (and why mindset shifts alone don’t cut it) ✅ 3 simple somatic practices to shift the state of your nervous system in real time ✅ How to use movement, breath, and tapping to signal safety and reduce anxiety in real-time Ready to turn your anxious moments into opportunities for calm? Hit play and let’s do this! >>> REGISTER FOR THE CALM & COLLECTED WORKSHOP <<< >>> 💌 DOWNLOAD THE NERVOUS SYSTEM RESET GUIDE <<<…

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329 - Unlocking Natural Eczema Solutions: Reclaim Your Child’s Health with Andra McHugh 36:26

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Parents—if you’re tired of watching your child battle red, itchy, painful eczema with temporary fixes that never really work, this episode is for you! Today, I’m joined by Andra McHugh, host of the Eczema Kids podcast and a powerhouse mom of four who turned her family’s eczema struggles into a mission. Frustrated by endless treatments and conflicting advice, Andra took matters into her own hands—and she’s here to share her natural, science-backed solutions that actually work. In this episode, you’ll discover: How simple tweaks in diet and stress management can transform your child’s skin. Organic skincare rituals designed specifically for eczema-prone, sensitive skin. Powerful strategies to confidently advocate for your child’s health and build lifelong wellness. Listen today to learn how to break the cycle of inflammation and help your child heal—naturally. Connect with Andra: Andra’s Website Andra’s Instagram >>> REGISTER FOR THE CALM & COLLECTED WORKSHOP <<< >>> 💌 DOWNLOAD THE NERVOUS SYSTEM RESET GUIDE <<<…

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328 - 4 Ways You’re Coping with Stress That Are Actually Making You Less Resilient 33:28

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We all have ways we deal with stress—some helpful, some… less so. But what if the habits you thought were helping you stay on top of things are actually reinforcing stress loops and keeping you stuck? In this episode, we’re unpacking four common coping strategies high-achieving women rely on—and how they might be preventing you from building real resilience. The truth is, these strategies aren’t bad. They likely served a purpose at some point in your life. But when they become rigid, they stop being supportive and start being a crutch. Let’s explore how to shift these habits so they actually help you feel calmer, more adaptable, and truly in control. Three things you’ll learn in this episode: How a jam-packed schedule, rigid routines, and background noise might be fueling stress instead of relieving it. Why high-intensity exercise can be helpful—but might be keeping your nervous system stuck in survival mode. Simple, science-backed tweaks to shift these habits so they actually build stress resilience instead of reinforcing dysregulation. If you’re ready to stop letting outdated stress habits hold you back and start living with more balance, energy, and calm, hit play now. It’s time to turn your stress into strength—one smart shift at a time! >>> REGISTER FOR THE CALM & COLLECTED WORKSHOP <<< >>> 💌 DOWNLOAD THE NERVOUS SYSTEM RESET GUIDE <<<…

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327 - Clenched Jaw, Brain Fog, and More: 5 Oddly Specific Signs Your Nervous System Needs Support 28:19

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You already know the classic signs of stress: racing thoughts, feeling constantly on edge, or never being able to relax. But what about the sneaky signs—like a clenched jaw you barely notice, stubborn digestive issues, or that second wind you get right before bedtime? In this episode, we’re diving into five oddly specific ways your body might be waving the red flag of nervous system dysregulation—and how to start listening and responding with simple, supportive steps. Three things you’ll learn in this episode: Five subtle signs your nervous system is dysregulated What somatic cues are and why they’re a vital part of nervous system regulation. Small, actionable shifts you can make to support your body before burnout hits. Listen in to learn how to decode your body’s hidden stress signals and take small steps toward nervous system balance and resilience. >>> REGISTER FOR THE CALM & COLLECTED WORKSHOP <<< >>> 💌 DOWNLOAD THE NERVOUS SYSTEM RESET GUIDE <<<…

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326 - 5 Everyday Habits That Dysregulate Your Nervous System (and What to Do Instead) 28:28

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📢 PSA: Odds are high that parts of your daily routine are dysregulating your nervous system. You might be unknowingly training your body to stay in survival mode—rushing out the door, overloading your calendar, and even hanging out with those energy vampires—all while thinking you're just “staying busy.” But these tiny, everyday habits are secretly keeping your nervous system on high alert. 😱 In today’s episode, we're exposing 5 sneaky habits that wreck your nervous system and showing you exactly how to flip the script. No judgment here—we’ve all been there. It’s time to learn how to tweak your routine so you can stop sabotaging your own calm and start building real resilience. ✨ In this episode, you’ll discover: The micro-habits that keep your body stuck in fight-or-flight mode. How that constant rushing, overbooking, and even people-pleasing might be undermining your ability to truly relax. Small, doable shifts to help your nervous system relax without overhauling your life.💆‍♀️ Hit play to learn how to stop self-sabotaging your peace and start inviting more calm, energy, and resilience into your day—one small shift at a time. >>> REGISTER FOR THE CALM & COLLECTED WORKSHOP <<< >>> 💌 DOWNLOAD THE NERVOUS SYSTEM RESET GUIDE <<<…

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325 - Raising Strong-Willed Kids Without Losing Your Mind with Wendy Snyder of Fresh Start Family 44:55

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Ever feel like your strong-willed child came into this world with a law degree and a mission to challenge everything you say? 😅 If you’re exhausted from the power struggles and wondering why your go-to parenting tactics aren’t working anymore, this episode is a must-listen. Today, I’m joined by Wendy Snyder, certified positive parenting educator and host of The Fresh Start Family Show , to talk about how to parent strong-willed kids with connection instead of control. Because let’s be real—yelling, threats, and punishments might get short-term compliance, but at what cost? If you want to raise confident, respectful, and emotionally intelligent kids without constantly feeling like the bad guy, Wendy’s got the mindset shifts and practical tools you need. Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode: 🔥 Why strong-willed kids push back so hard—and why that’s actually a GOOD thing 🔥 How to shift from reactive to responsive parenting (so you stop snapping and start leading) 🔥 What to do instead of threats, yelling, or punishment when your kid just won’t listen 🔥 Why “discipline” doesn’t mean “control” and how to set limits that actually work Wendy’s approach is all about teaching your kids important life skills while strengthening your bond with them—so you can stop dreading the next meltdown and start feeling more calm, confident, and in control (without the guilt). Ready for parenting to feel lighter? Hit play, friend! Connect with Wendy: Wendy’s Website Find Wendy on Instagram New Year Positive Parenting Kick Start Free Challenge >>> REGISTER FOR THE CALM & COLLECTED WORKSHOP <<< >>> 💌 DOWNLOAD THE NERVOUS SYSTEM RESET GUIDE <<<…

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324 - 3 Reasons You're Stuck in Fight-or-Flight (Even Though You're Actually Safe) 28:36

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Ever snap at your kids or feel your heart race the second your boss says, “We need to talk,” even though you logically know it’s not a life-or-death situation? You’re not just “overreacting.” Chances are your nervous system is stuck replaying an outdated survival script—one that sounds the alarm at the smallest hint of stress. In today’s episode, we’re calling out 3 reasons your body refuses to let go of fight-or-flight, even when life is actually fine. Turns out, “calm down” isn’t a magic wand for a system convinced it’s under siege. You’ll learn why your past experiences keep hitting the panic button, and how to show your body it’s safe instead of just telling it. Three things you’ll learn in this episode: How your nervous system’s “database of past experiences” keeps hitting the panic button. Why telling yourself “everything’s fine” doesn’t override your body’s survival response. Real-world steps to build capacity and gradually teach your body it’s safe. Tune in to discover how to rewrite that worn-out “everything’s a threat” story and finally let your body experience true safety—even when your boss calls an impromptu meeting or your kids decide to have a meltdown at 8 a.m.! >>> REGISTER FOR THE CALM & COLLECTED WORKSHOP <<< >>> 💌 DOWNLOAD THE NERVOUS SYSTEM RESET GUIDE <<<…

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323 - Talk Therapy Not Working? 3 Reasons You’re Still Stuck in Anxiety & Burnout 28:16

il y a 7 weeks28:16