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This week, for our final episode before a summer break, we're talking about how we block our own or others' genuine feelings so that we don't have to face the reality of our emotions. We'll be back in September. Have a good summer (or winter, depending on where you are in the world) We're on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/sideways_podcast/ …
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This week we're discussing 'breadcrumbing', a close relation of 'ghosting'. A man finds himself in the midst of an earthquake at a most inopportune time, and Martin has some wonderful news which is not overshadowed by my gratitude for a handful of radishes. We're on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/sideways_podcast/ We're on TikTok @landiwell…
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This week we're talking about our personal experiences of addiction and depression and the anhedonia that accompanied them. We also hear about a woman who can tell the outcome of sporting events simply by throwing asparagus into the air. We're on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/sideways_podcast/ We're on TikTok @landiwellbeing You can email …
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This week, we're talking about the importance of appropriate personal space. We also cover urinal etiquette and good manners when driving through a traffic contraflow. We're on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/sideways_podcast/ We're on TikTok @landiwellbeing You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk Thanks again for listening, we r…
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This week we're talking about dealing with shyness. Are you born like it? How does it differ from introversion and social anxiety? Can you do anything about it? We also discuss attitudes to small talk and feel grateful for self-discipline and passing places on narrow country lanes. We're on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/sideways_podcast/ W…
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This week, we're talking about burnout. Why does it happen and what can we do to prevent it? Martin has news of World War 3, we wonder about post-apocalyptic football, and I become frustrated at next door's cats using my raised beds as a toilet. We're on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/sideways_podcast/ We're on TikTok @landiwellbeing You ca…
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This week we're talking about why we sometimes feel out of our depth without much evidence in support. I do some research on mangoes, a man wears inappropriate footwear that causes him no end of problems while metal detecting, and Martin experiences some auditory recall for which he is grateful. We're on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/sidew…
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This week we're talking about the importance of being your true self, whoever that is. Neither of us bothers to look out for the Northern Lights but we both feel enthusiastic about the idea of cuddling a cow. Martin remembers being shamed for coming last and we wonder if it’s ever OK to cheat on a test. We're on Instagram at https://www.instagram.c…
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This week we're talking about why it's unhelpful to always think about things in terms of good and bad without anything in between A man has an unusual emotional support animal stolen, we debate the merit of putting vegetables in cakes, and Martin is grateful for big parking spaces. We're on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/sideways_podcast/ …
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This week, we're talking about how we prepare ourselves emotionally for challenging situations. We hear about a man who goes to great lengths to avoid getting wet, I upset the Irish with my poor attempt at an accent, and Martin feels grateful for an excited hug. We're on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/sideways_podcast/ We're on TikTok @land…
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This week we're talking about what your clothes say about you and the way that our emotional state might influence what we choose to wear. A woman tries to take a bank loan for a corpse, we reminisce about the perils of riding a bike with flared trousers, and we discuss the tricky topic of wearing pyjamas in the supermarket. We're on Instagram at h…
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This week we're discussing the benefits of silence. Martin gets upset about a suggestion that it's OK to laugh at a funeral, I feel grateful for window cleaners, and there's controversy over the addition of a keyboard player to our dead supergroup. We're on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/sideways_podcast/ We're on TikTok @landiwellbeing You…
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This week, we're discussing the way that dismissing someone's legitimate emotions as a sign of weakness or lack of desirable masculinity is hugely destructive. A coat is mistaken for a leopard, we decide that using someone else's bin without permission is a violation of privacy, and there's a cautionary tale if you happen to be a rock drummer. We'r…
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Building Confidence in Recovery
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This week we're talking about ways to bolster your confidence so that you can occupy your rightful place in the world with assertiveness and comfort. Someone mistakes a hat for a hedgehog, I impersonate a man of the cloth, and we debate the wisdom of taking a cobra to a party and guzzling its venom for kicks. We're on Instagram at https://www.insta…
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This week we're talking about why we have trouble maintaining focus, what it might say about us and how to manage it better. Martin recalls being waterboarded at the hairdresser and tells us which station he'd choose if he were to name himself after one. We're on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/sideways_podcast/ We're on TikTok @landiwellbei…
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This week we're talking about the things we've forgotten that we think we remember even though what we come up with might be a complete fabrication. A goat is arrested for the theft of a Mazda 323, some Reading Rock Festival pizza rots Martin's jeans, and I am attacked by malware. We're on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/sideways_podcast/ We…
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This week we’re talking about how we can become experts at looking for evidence in support of beliefs we already hold, and the ways it can be destructive. We also hear about a lady who took her dead hamster on the trip of a lifetime and make a useful addition to our posthumous supergroup. We're on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/sideways_pod…
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This week, I've been in Scotland and so we recorded in a rush without any time to do a proper edit. It's a mark of our "professionalism" that you probably won't tell a difference between this and our other episodes. We're chatting about platitudes and why they are so unhelpful. There's also all the usual guff. We're on Instagram at https://www.inst…
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This week we're talking about why people feel the need to embellish the truth and how it often comes from a place of low self-confidence. We wonder what it would be like to wake up at your own funeral, hear about animals travelling in underwear, and see the insufferable liar, Jay from The Inbetweeners, in a whole new light. We're on Instagram at ht…
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This week we're talking about something simple, the meaning of life. We hear a remarkable excuse for illegal possession of drugs, Martin gets mistaken for a pensioner, we feel grateful for bowel cancer screening, and I recall almost being crushed under a Land Rover. We're on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/sideways_podcast/ We're on TikTok @…
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Managing Your Inner Dialogue
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This week we're discussing the ways we can harness our inevitable self-talk. Martin does a survey on anchovies, and a pigeon is held captive for eight months on suspicion of espionage. We're on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/sideways_podcast/ We're on TikTok @landiwellbeing You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk Thanks again fo…
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This week, we're talking about why it hurts when someone lets us down, how we can avoid it happening, and what to do if it does. Other than that, we hear about how speedy cashiers can cause mental health crises, whether or not it's important to be able to shuffle a deck of cards, and I find out what Martin has in his larder. We're on Instagram at h…
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This week we're discussing thinking you know everything already and how that expert mindset can often limit your opportunities to grow intellectually and emotionally. Martin has a story about confusing an owl with a mushroom, a drunken man gets arrested for impersonating a ghost, and we ponder on the possibility that all the great philosophers were…
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This week we're talking about the benefits of going into situations without assuming any prior knowledge, and how even if you're a relative expert, keeping an open mind and believing you can always learn something new is the way to sustainable and enjoyable personal growth. Martin tells a harrowing tale about an exploding toilet which puts him in m…
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This week we’re talking about why it’s important to be adaptable in recovery and life generally. To illustrate our ability to adapt to random subjects we find time for Barry White, an art exhibition for dogs, pair Socrates and Einstein in an unlikely midfield three with Oprah Winfrey, and discuss our feelings about ironing. We're on Instagram at ht…
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This week we’re talking about some of the biological and genetic factors that might make problems with addiction more likely. Neither of us claims to be experts in this area so you needn’t worry that we might bog you down in difficult-to-understand science. To lighten the mood we hear about Freddie Mercury appearing in a teaspoon, the perils of sol…
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This week, if you’re wondering why you’d been feeling so stressed and anxious about the festive period that we’ve just hauled our way through, we might have some of the answers for you. Martin has a cold and tries to bring us all down to his level of misery with a particularly unseasonal tale about inappropriate gifting. We express gratitude for be…
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This week we’re talking about the impact too much alcohol can have on your memory. Martin introduces me to the concept of moon bathing, we hear about a worrying danger of food deliveries, ponder on the merits of being good at giving speeches, and consider writing and sharing eulogies for one another whilst we’re still alive to hear them. We're on I…
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This week, we inadvertently select a topic we covered earlier in the year and then worried that we might have contradicted ourselves within the space of six months. Intervention is clearly an important topic on which we have a lot to say In addition, we think about the best way to catch a kangaroo, show gratitude for video calls and reliable cars, …
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This week we’re talking about what happens when you don’t or can’t seem to limit the empathy you feel for others. We discuss, where it originates, why it can be a problem and what you can do about it. We share our fond memories of Shane MacGowan, debate the connection between creativity and alcohol, hear about some horrifying places where spiders l…
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This week we’re talking about why we sometimes find it hard to celebrate other people’s success and how helpful it is to do so. We wonder how God feels about hot drinks in church, discover the names of two Osmond siblings we didn't know existed, reminisce about Martin’s affection for chocolate buttons, and we select our favourite poems. We're on In…
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This week, after our discussion last time about scarcity mindset, we're balancing things out with some thoughts about why an abundance mindset is far preferable. In addition, we discuss the art of telling jokes, "big up" the value of freezers and leaf blowers, and there's exciting news for anyone saddened by the demise of the "Caramac" bar. We're o…
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This week we're talking about the negative impacts of worrying that you won't have enough, regardless of whether you're right or not. Martin waxes lyrical about prescription apps, and I extol the virtues of a squirrel. We're on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/sideways_podcast/ We're on TikTok @landiwellbeing You can email us at info@grahamla…
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This week we're talking about the physical, emotional and mental benefits of listening to classical music. Martin tells us about a surprising and inappropriate donation to a charity shop, and we discuss canoeing, and growing up in a house without central heating. I then erroneously ascribe "The Young Person's Guide To The Orchestra" before knocking…
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This week, having recently spoken about anxiety, an emotion that lives in the future, we're turning our attention to the ways we become burdened by the past. I can't recall any famous hijacks, we pay tribute to Matthew Perry, who we focused on in one of our very early episodes, and we talk rituals and wet shaving. We're on Instagram at https://www.…
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This week we're talking about some of the reasons alcohol is treated differently in society from other drugs. I get antsy about technology updates, Martin has news about "Tree Of The Year", we discover we know very little about communion wine, and debate the value of parallel parking. We're on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/sideways_podcast…
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This week we're talking about how to manage anxiety and the way in which almost everything that works best is counterintuitive. Martin leaves his dartboard outside, and celebrates a day just for him. We make arrangements for handling a bear attack and ask, "Should apples be stored in the fridge?" (of course not). We're on Instagram at https://www.i…
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This week we're talking about why we find giving and recieving compliments so awkward, what it says about us, and how to change it. There's squirrel talk, a discussion about whether we all end up dressing our age, some dull exchanges about loose-leaf tea, and a tale about sheep on drugs. We're on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/sideways_podc…
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This week, we're talking about all the benefits of being kind to other people, many of which are incredibly powerful for the giver of kindness as much as they are for the receiver. Martin gives away some chocolate but can't take advantage of a client's similar act of kindness, I enjoy floor coverings, and we have a night in London that culminated i…
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This week we're discussing all the methods we use to get in our own way. Procrastination, perfectionism, low self-esteem, disconnection, and lots more. I help my daughter liberate a spider, Martin oversleeps, we debate the merits of measuring things by using other things, and remember the heady days of the conker battles we had in our youth. We're …
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We're back, and this week we're talking about five common signs that you've developed or are developing a dependence on a substance or behaviour. There are guitar-shaped coffins, tales of being attacked by two wild animals simultaneously, short trousers, and neck ties. It's good to be with you again. We're on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/…
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A short trailer to let you know that we've had enough of being without you and are looking forward to returning next week. We're on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/sideways_podcast/ We're on TikTok @landiwellbeing You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk Thanks again for listening, we really appreciate it.…
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In the last episode of this season, we're talking about how we create conditions for inspiration. We reminisce about bringing games into school on the last day of term, I learn a lot about work charming, and Martin reveals his fondness for bouncy balls. We'll be back in September but, if you can't wait that long, there are 174 other episodes for yo…
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This week we're talking about why we find it hard to make decisions and what we can do about it. There's money to be made from scaring birds, especially those with a drug habit, Martin dresses up as a Cavalier, and we get all wistful about paddling pools. We're on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/sideways_podcast/ We're on TikTok @landiwellbe…
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This week we're talking about the fine line between supportive behaviour and the point at which it slips into enabling a continuation of the problem that you're trying to help address. We allow ourselves a once in 43 years moment or two of euphoria at our football team finally winning something and consider sober ways to celebrate . We deconstruct …
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This week, we're talking about doubting your own ability and why there is no benefit in believing the worst about who you are and what you can do. If that weren't enough, there is also chat about getting old, parking apps, novelty coffins, and flowers with low self-confidence. We're on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/sideways_podcast/ We're …
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This week we’re talking about how and why we’re easily led astray. During a conversation about library fines, I make a long overdue confession, Martin is grateful for haggis, and I buy some new pots. It's better than it sounds. We're on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/sideways_podcast/ We're on TikTok @landiwellbeing You can email us at info…
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This week, we're discussing how much we struggle to know who we are, especially through difficult periods of our lives and how who you were yesterday is almost certainly different from who you are today. I Google my name to see who the internet thinks I am, there is a tale about a furious cow, Martin's late father falls into a river and he (Martin)…
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Reframing Negative Thoughts
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This week we're talking about ways to rethink our negative thoughts and I make the lofty claim that there is no negative thought that cannot be reframed positively. I reveal my difficulty with irritating sounds, Martin has some more tales about animals, we disagree about waking up to the sound of a legendary guitarist, and we ponder the possibility…
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This week we're talking about why we find it hard to face the end of things, even when they have been destructive and painful. We discuss too, the space between endings and new beginnings which can be incredibly uncomfortable yet super helpful if we can learn to navigate it properly. I bemoan street parties, Martin praises leftovers, and we wonder …
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