130. Just F**king Be Nice – To Yourself with Ely Delaney

FINE is a 4-Letter Word

As human beings, we are both programmed and pressured to say everything is “fine”.

Someone asks, “how are you?” and you’re supposed to reply “fine, how are you?”

Have you noticed that a benign, well-meaning core value many of us are raised with could be reinforcing this and blocking us from improving ourselves?

Ely Delaney, whom I met through Success Champions and recently reconnected with when he responded to an ad from our production company looking for guests, is one of these people.

His parents raised him with a strong work ethic, emphasizing that you do your best with what you have. All well and good, and from what I know of Ely, I can see his parents’ positivity and love reflected in the man I’ve come to know and respect.

But could you be translating this in your mind into “good enough is good enough”? For Ely, it’s the difference between the common notion of "working hard equals success" and the necessity of pushing oneself beyond average effort.

By 2019 Ely, had his business, his life partner, their daughter, and though he had been some ups and downs, everything seemed “fine”.

But Fine is a 4-Letter Word.

In 2020, COVID hit and took a toll on his business. At the same time, his partner was diagnosed with what turned out to be a fatal brain tumor. Plus, he didn’t feel like he fit in living in Portland, Oregon. All the while, he was expected to say “Fine, how are you?” when asked how things were going.

So, after attending a seminar in Texas, Ely decided he had found his people – those who aligned at least 80% with his core values – and moved there for a fresh start.

It was basically a “fuck this, I’m OUTTA here” moment. Given your current circumstances, would you like to do that?

These days, Ely is on the rise – his business is growing again, he has a great circle of friends, and he’s found happiness unlike what he knew before. In fact, he has watched podcast interviews of himself from two years ago vs. today and sees in himself the changes in his facial expressions and the energy he projects.

In a moment, when you meet Ely, you’ll discover the influences and learnings that coalesce to bring him to this place. It’s an eclectic mix of archery, Bushido, and two of the core philosophies he has developed for himself and teaches others – “Meet Cool People” and “Just Fucking Be Nice”.

Ely’s hype song is “Main Attraction” by Jeremy Renner.

Resources:

• Ely Delaney’s website: https://ConnectWithEly.com
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/elydelaney/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/elydelaney
• Instagram: https://instagram.com/elydelaney/
• X (formerly Twitter): https://x.com/elydelaney

Invitation from Lori:

If, like Ely a couple years ago, you’ve reached the point where you’re tired of saying “fine, how are you?” and are ready to say “Fuck this, I’m OUTTA HERE” - the 5 Easy Ways to Start Living The Sabbatical Life guide is for you.

Once you read it, you’ll

✅ Discover a counter-intuitive approach to making intentional changes in mindset and lifestyle.

✅ Learn how to own your feelings and your struggles so you can address them.

✅ Find out how to face fears, step out of your comfort zone, and rewire your beliefs.

It’s only 7 pages, so it won’t take you long to get through. The five tactics are simple, but similar to the seven principles of Bushido, they are simple, straightforward, and at your disposal to use as you choose.

When you’re ready to say F*ck Being Fine – then this guide is the place to start. It’s time to blaze your own trail and allow your curiosity to take you on a new quest!

Go to https://zenrabbit.com right now to download it for free.

Now, let’s go meet Ely. Whoa – wait a minute – he’s holding a bow and arrow! He’s a super nice guy, though – you’ll see!