"You don't just 'get' what you want." (Life)

Life Letters™

Do you always think that "one day" you'll find the one? Or "one day" you will have what you're looking for? In today's episode, Emma gets us thinking about how we progress and perspective really work.

If you could talk to you, this is what it would sound like. In under five-minute clips, the Life Letters™ explores the topics of growth, change, self-love, relationships, and happiness. Hosted by author Emma Grace of Instagram’s hugely popular 'Live in the Details,' the Life Letters™ will hand you a daily dose of the words you never knew you always needed to hear.
Podcast Transcript: It took me a long time to understand that magic lines don’t really exist the way we think they do. All of us draw them. We think— when *this* finally happens or *that* finally falls into place— that we’ll be happy. Financially secure. In shape. So many things. And we do it with trivial things and huge, life-altering things. We buy clothes we don’t need and imagine some crazy scenario down the road we’ll need them. We imagine our perfect little lives when we have a family. When we meet the one. When we have enough money to buy all of what we need and maybe most of what we want. I mean, we literally think we are going to cross some imaginary magic lines in time and enter this brand new world of “everything is good now.” We plan for overnight successes and definitely not the inches of progress and change that this life really gives us. We think— when only we’re 18, life will be so much better because... and then we insert all of those reasons. When we get to 18, we just want to be 21, because that’s even better than 18. At 21, we want be 25. At 25 we want to be 30. And it just keeps going. On and on and on... until one day, we run out of time and realize all we’ve ever done is wished we were somewhere else. If I could go back to the beginning, when I was learning how life worked, I would want someone to tell me what I am going to tell you. You ready? You NEVER get to a place where you know everything you want to know. Where you have all the answers you want. You get it? You can apply that to whatever you want. Your relationship. Your job. Your lost love. Your family. People. Experiences. The past. Whatever you'd like. And because you will never get to that place where you know it all— you have GOT to teach yourself what it means to be comfortable with not knowing. Because that is where peace really comes from, love. Not yoga. Not meditation. Not mindfulness. Not a bunch of apps that claim to have the secret. Sure, those things might help— but that’s not where peace lives. Those are just ways to quiet the noise enough to know that you weren't listening. To your own heart. The same one telling you it will always walk beside you— even if neither of you know exactly how to get there.