The Impact of Betrayal on a Partner's Identity - with Dr. Heidi Hastings - Episode 264

From Crisis to Connection - with Geoff & Jody Steurer

In this episode we welcome Dr. Heidi Hastings, a marriage and sex researcher, to discuss her research on the impact of betrayal on a partner's identity. Dr. Hastings outlines the five stages of betrayal and self-development, which include innocence, crisis, aftermath, healing, and transformation. Through her research involving diverse women, Dr. Hastings found that betrayal deeply affects multiple aspects of a woman's identity, prompting significant personal growth through crisis. By the end of the transformation stage, many women felt a deeper sense of identity and did not wish to return to their previous selves despite the pain they endured.

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About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.

About Jody Steurer:
Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.

About Dr. Heidi Hastings:
Heidi Hastings is a marriage and sex researcher, educator, and relationship coach. She also teaches Family Stress and Coping for BYU-Idaho Online. Heidi recently completed a PhD in Human Development and Family Studies from Texas Woman’s University. Her research interests include betrayal trauma, healthy sexuality, the impact of pornography on religious women, adult development, and transformational growth. She is currently writing a book for religious women who have experienced sexual betrayal, their religious leaders, and others who support them. The book is based primarily on her academic research but is also influenced by her own experiences with betrayal in her first marriage.

Heidi and her husband, Dr. Scott Hastings, are the co-hosts of the recently launched Marriage IQ podcast. The podcast is a platform for reengineering the findings of Heidi's research on betrayal to educate about marriage from prevention and new beginnings perspectives.

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