Ep #90: Ways to Bring About Positive Change

Wannabe Balanced | MINDSET Coach

Wannabe Balanced | MINDSET Coach

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In this episode, we delve into the concept of being "qualified" in the workplace, examining who gets labeled as such, who doesn't, and the underlying reasons. We explore "competency checking"—the practice of scrutinizing individuals' abilities—and how it disproportionately affects underrepresented groups, often going unnoticed or unchallenged. Our discussion aims to redefine qualifications in a fair, equitable, and actionable manner. Our guest, Shari Dunn , is an accomplished journalist, former attorney, news anchor, CEO, university professor, and sought-after speaker. She has been recognized as Executive of the Year and a Woman of Influence, with her work appearing in Fortune Magazine, The Wall Street Journal, Ad Age, and more. Her new book, Qualified: How Competency Checking and Race Collide at Work , unpacks what it truly means to be deserving and capable—and why systemic barriers, not personal deficits, are often the real problem. Her insights challenge the narratives that hold so many of us back and offer practical solutions for building a more equitable future. Together, we can build workplaces and communities that don’t just reflect the world we live in, but the one we want to create. A world where being qualified is about recognizing the talent and potential that’s been overlooked for far too long. It’s not just about getting a seat at the table—it’s about building an entirely new table, one designed with space for all of us. Connect with Our Guest Shari Dunn Website& Book - Qualified: https://thesharidunn.com LI: https://www.linkedin.com/today/author/sharidunn TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thesharidunn Related Podcast Episodes: How To Build Emotionally Mature Leaders with Dr. Christie Smith | 272 Holding It Together: Women As America's Safety Net with Jessica Calarco | 215 How To Defy Expectations with Dr. Sunita Sah | 271 Share the Love: If you found this episode insightful, please share it with a friend, tag us on social media, and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform! 🔗 Subscribe & Review: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Amazon Music…

il y a 5 ans 17:47

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It's a team effort. We all can't be activists for every problem in the world, but we can choose one or a few things that we are most passionate about and focus on that.

We need more gratitude for the things that each of us decide to spend our time on and less shaming for the things we don't.

159 episodes

Ep #90: Ways to Bring About Positive Change

Wannabe Balanced | MINDSET Coach

published il y a 5 ans

MP3•Maison d'episode

It's a team effort. We all can't be activists for every problem in the world, but we can choose one or a few things that we are most passionate about and focus on that.

We need more gratitude for the things that each of us decide to spend our time on and less shaming for the things we don't.

159 episodes

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Ep #161: 1 Year No Social Media {Life Update} 14:53

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It’s been almost one year since I last recorded a podcast and since I stopped posting on social media. This wasn’t necessarily intentional by the way. My plan was to take the summer off from everything so I could focus a little more on other things for a while. But when September rolled around I found myself not wanting to come back to podcasting and social media, which was strange. I’d always been rearing to get back to work as soon as the kids went back to school. But this year was different. This was the first summer I didn’t post at all and I never once checked Facebook. It was like I got to go back in time, back before cell phones and social media. And I found it to be so incredibly refreshing. No more constantly worrying about taking pictures and videos for my next post. In fact, I didn’t really take any pictures and videos this year besides our vacation and holidays. It was so unlike me. I got to see what it was like to just live my life, going with the flow, having no big plans. Just simple and present. Something I haven’t felt in well over a decade. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve loved creating videos and podcasts over the years, but I just needed a nice long break, kinda like a sabbatical I guess.…

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Ep #160: Season's Ending, New Beginnings, & Letting Go 14:20

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Seasons come, seasons go… switch things up and ride the flow. Being consistent with what you’re doing in pursuit of your goals does not mean you do the same thing every day. You must learn how to align with the seasons & switch things up in order to experience FLOW. When each season comes to a close we tend to experience momentary boredom or even a bit of anxiety or depression. Feeling uninspired or unmotivated. When the energy of one season shifts to the next we may notice feelings of exhaustion or overwhelm if not in the habit of aligning with the seasons. This is the moment to go inward, avoid distracting yourself from this uncomfortable feeling. If you wait long enough you’ll become receptive to a new energy. A fresh new creative outlook will emerge. New ideas, new projects, new focus. During this transition stage it’s important to listen up to what your inner energy is gravitating towards. Is it time to let some things go? Set something aside for a SEASON? Is it time to shift your focus to more play and less work? More creating and less consuming? More rest and less rushing? There’s a time to work and a time to play. A time to rest, and a time to exert yourself. Spring is coming to a close and Summer is around the corner. Ask yourself, what needs to change as the seasons change? For me, my entire calendar gets a make over. I’m shifting from content creation via my podcast, social media, and the MINDSET classes, to more home projects and kid focus. Seasons are what keeps life so fun and interesting. Always something to look forward to. Embrace the ebbs to release the intelligent flow of life. Alignment means awareness of when to pivot, or when to let go. Right now I’m switching up my rituals and routines. Wrapping up Spring and gearing up for Summer. From producing to reducing. Less work, more fun. Less online time to more outside time. Contemplation and plant propagation. Decluttering and Gardening Workouts and writing… What’s your focus going to be this summer? P.S. I have room to take on a few more clients if you've been needing help with managing your time, or managing your emotions. I'm here for yah! Schedule an appointment now before my summer slots fill up. https://calendly.com/crystalescobar/1-hour-coaching-session…

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Ep #159: HEALING | Mind, Body, & Soul 47:05

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Let’s take a look at your symptoms, physical AND mental. Do you have any pain in your body? Extra weight? Skin conditions, thinning hair? Are you dealing with any anxiety or depression? What ever the symptom is, there is always a root cause and that’s what I hope tonights class can help you identify. With my rash I explored all potential causes. Through deep introspection and researching breast implant illness, I was able to narrow it down. When I began reading about breast implant illness and discovered countless stories of other women experiencing the same symptoms as me, I was convinced that my next step towards better health should be to remove my implants. I also made sure to look at my mental and emotional health during this time. I even went back and read some of my journal entries leading up to the rash outbreak. I noticed a theme in my writings. RESENTMENT. I was carrying a lot of resentment in my body, thinking I was processing it by writing it out. But writing alone is not always enough. Sometimes you need to SAY something rather than hold it in. Sometimes it’s necessary to voice how you’re feeling, what you’re upset about, set some boundaries and make some changes. {Want access to my FREE Journal Prompts and Work Books? Sign up HERE to assist you in your goal for increased self awareness through daily writing and monthly challenges.} If you’re interested in booking a FREE Mini Session then use my calendar link to schedule with me. (New Clients Only) MY CALENDAR https://calendly.com/crystalescobar/30-min-free-mini-session…

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Ep #158: Lose Yourself | Post Explant Surgery Mindset 30:28

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Not gonna lie, seeing my smaller chest for the first time was emotional. I broke down in tears, but quickly shifted back to acceptance. Now I see them as an elegant beauty rather than hot sexy. Both versions are awesome, so I'm choosing to embrace my new look. Focusing on what was gained rather than what was lost. They don’t look perfect, but even without the implants, I’m not going to be able to stop the process aging. Letting go of resistance I have to my body changing with time, and the belief that I reached my peak of beauty. Redefining what beauty means to me. Getting it out of my head that youth is the only kind of beauty. I started paying more attention to the beauty of deep wisdom that only comes with AGE. The lines and wrinkles represent experience and a life LIVED. Seeing less and less of my external beauty and more and more of my internal beauty. Seems cliche to say that, but like in the movie, I feel Pretty, when you FEEL pretty, that’s all you really need in order to be happy and content. We feel pretty by how we think and what we believe. {Want access to my FREE Journal Prompts and Work Books? Sign up HERE to assist you in your goal for increased self awareness through daily writing and monthly challenges.}\ If you’re interested in booking a FREE Mini Session then use my calendar link to schedule with me. (New Clients Only) MY CALENDAR https://calendly.com/crystalescobar/30-min-free-mini-session…

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Ep #157: Organize Your Mind & Your LIFE 1:05:01

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One of my specialties is organizing. It’s something I’m naturally good at, but also something I often promote because of the incredible benefits it can have on the brain. Having things neat and orderly is extremely important to me. My kids don’t always love it though. I try to impress upon them the benefits of a clean room and a made up bed, but they just think I’m a bit of a perfectionist. I tried for years to get my oldest to make her bed each day and she’d always say, why, nobody is going to see it . I’d be so offended that she actually thought I wanted her to make her bed for OTHER people. I wanted her to make her bed for me, haha, but I was also hoping she’d experience the same sense of satisfaction I get when I walk by her room and see it all neat and tidy. It has everything to do with me, haha. I recognized early on in my life the positive affects a clean and organized space had on my brain so it’s something that has always been a priority for me. There’s nothing better than coming down to a clean kitchen first thing in the morning, or climbing into my neatly made up bed at night. I do it for my brain. I used to think it was just a personality thing. I know messes don’t bother everyone, but I’ve come to learn that clutter and disorganization can have plenty of negative affects on all people, it’s not just me. Some may not even realize the stress, overwhelm, and fatigue they often feel, could be directly related to chaos and clutter. It’s not just a personality type thing, it’s a human thing. {Want access to my FREE Journal Prompts and Work Books? Sign up HERE to assist you in your goal for increased self awareness through daily writing and monthly challenges.}\ If you’re interested in booking a FREE Mini Session then use my calendar link to schedule with me. (New Clients Only) MY CALENDAR https://calendly.com/crystalescobar/30-min-free-mini-session…

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Ep #156: Creativity for Problem Solving & Manifesting More of What You Want 47:29

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When we hear the word creative, we often think of artsy people who spend their days painting or writing songs and poetry. But creativity is one of THE most powerful energies we can all access. This energy is not just for the people who we deem as creatives, but it’s available to ALL of us. Not for the sole purpose of creating art per se, but it can be used in our every day lives for creative problem solving, inspired ways of extracting what we want out of life, and innovatively contributing to the collective evolution. WE ARE ALL CREATIVE How many of you would consider yourself creative? Well guess what, we are ALL creative. It’s in our very nature to create. We literally create LIFE. We are designed to procreate, cocreate, and recreate. Allow others creative work to inspire your own. Maybe you’d like to recreate a song that has already been written by changing the lyrics to match your life experience. Or rewrite the narrative to a well known fairy tale. When it comes to using creativity in our every day life, maybe it looks more like rewriting the narrative to your past. Thinking outside the box when it comes to the belief system you inherited from your parents. Or simply coming up with a plan to get out debt, move to your dream destination, or turning your passion into a profession. For me, I especially love to create organized and cozy living spaces. I also enjoy formulating new recipes, rituals, and routines. Recipes for healthy meals and also recipes for personal development. I love creating new systems and formulas within my life coaching practice to improve mental health and well being. Everything that has already been created is like additional colors to your pallet. You are the artist and your brain is the paint brush. What picture do you want it to create using all the colors you have available to you. Adding someone else’s colors to your masterpiece is not imitating, it’s innovating. Sometimes the most brilliant inventions come from combining 2 or 3 things that already exist. That’s exactly how ER Shred was born. We combined different dietary approaches then made a few enhancements in order to create a sustainable and effective protocol. We limitate when we imitate. Because it’s in our nature to create AND evolve, we should always have an innovators mind. How can we expand upon what we already know? If we hope for each generation to be better than the last, we must live in constant curiosity. Always asking questions. Questions are at the root of innovation. {Want access to my FREE Journal Prompts and Work Books? Sign up HERE to assist you in your goal for increased self awareness through daily writing and monthly challenges.}\ If you’re interested in booking a FREE Mini Session then use my calendar link to schedule with me. (New Clients Only) MY CALENDAR https://calendly.com/crystalescobar/30-min-free-mini-session Subscribe: Apple Podcasts | Android | RSS…

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Ep #155: Explant Surgery | Saying Goodbye to my Boobs in PURSUIT of Health 27:31

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In 2 weeks I am officially bidding my boobies farewell. It's been an extremely emotional decision but I'm ready to let them go in pursuit of better health. As many of you know I've been struggling with skin issues for years. This last fall I had an alarming outbreak that caused me to look deeper into what might have contributed to this horrific rash that practically covered my entire body. I went to 2 different doctors, even had a biopsy, but neither one of them could give me an answer as to what might have been the cause. I went down a rabbit hole of information, searching for potential causes which landed me at Breast Implant Illness. After reading countless stories of other women who shared many of my same symptoms, I'm hopeful that getting my breast implants removed will be the answer. Or at least another step closer to better health. The last 5 years have truly been a process of ELIMINATING all the toxic things from my life. It started with eliminating a toxic belief system (leaving my religion), which then led to eliminating toxic foods (ER Shred), and now working on eliminating toxic cleaning products, toiletries, make up, and so forth. It only seems natural to consider my breast implants being another source of toxicity that my body can no longer tolerate. {Want access to my FREE Journal Prompts and Work Books? Sign up HERE to assist you in your goal for increased self awareness through daily writing and monthly challenges.}\ If you’re interested in booking a FREE Mini Session then use my calendar link to schedule with me. (New Clients Only) MY CALENDAR https://calendly.com/crystalescobar/30-min-free-mini-session Subscribe: Apple Podcasts | Android | RSS…

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Ep #154: My Addiction to the "Sean Drug" | Codependency & Self Worth 57:29

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I didn’t know I was codependent until about 2 years ago when Sean "Ferberized" me. For most of our marriage Sean was my source of feeling good about myself. He always made me feel loved, cherished, sexy, safe, and valued. I’d often say, "boy Sean, I wish I could just see myself through your eyes". It’s like pure ecstasy to be loved and seen by Sean. But the only problem was, I got addicted to the "Sean drug" and eventually became dependent on it. He became my main source of feeling good about me, which as you can imagine is extremely exhausting for anyone to carry that kind of expectation and responsibility. Sean got to a point in our marriage where he tired of me constantly needing him to fill my cup. He knew that the only way we would get out of this unhealthy never ending cycle, was for him to allow me to “cry it out”. So in a sense, I had to go through a detox period and experience all the withdrawals. The pain that comes when ever you’re trying to beat an addiction. I had to learn to self soothe... {Want access to my FREE Journal Prompts and Work Books? Sign up HERE to assist you in your goal for increased self awareness through daily writing and monthly challenges.} If you’re interested in booking a FREE Mini Session then use my calendar link to schedule with me. (New Clients Only) MY CALENDAR https://calendly.com/crystalescobar/30-min-free-mini-session Subscribe: Apple Podcasts | Android | RSS…

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Ep #153: Making Peace w/ Relationships That Have Ended 7:52

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We've all had our fair share of painful relationships and break ups. What if we could talk to the higher self version of the person we "broke up" with. I imagined us high fiving back stage somewhere. Congratulating each other on a job well done. “Out standing performance” I say. You really taught me some valuable lessons. That all felt so real. I was so in character that I completely lost touch with reality… {Want access to my FREE Journal Prompts and Work Books? Sign up HERE to assist you in your goal for increased self awareness through daily writing and monthly challenges.} If you’re interested in booking a FREE Mini Session then use my calendar link to schedule with me. (New Clients Only) MY CALENDAR https://calendly.com/crystalescobar/30-min-free-mini-session Subscribe: Apple Podcasts | Android | RSS…

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Ep #152: I have some CONFESSIONS to make 23:56

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I have some confessions to make… For some reason the podcast feels like a safer space to be more open and raw. Maybe because I know that the people who take the time to listen are the ones who truly resonate with what I'm sharing. So you listeners, thank you! I’ve attempted to be real open and raw on Facebook and Instagram and it didn’t always go over well. I guess you can say that I’m a little trigger shy now that I’ve tested those waters. Confession. The word confession has always been a very scary word for me until I hit the age of about 38, I’m almost 42 now . My entire life I feared ever having to go talk to my bishop to “confess my sins”. When I was 10 years old I had a traumatic experience, I was completely engulfed in shame by this horrific event. At the time I had no idea what to do with it. I was so scared of anyone knowing about this, but was literally dying inside with my secret. An entire year later I mustered up the courage to tell my mom. I still remember the overwhelming fear I had. Driving in the car with just my mom and I. My body shaking, palms sweaty, and tightness in my stomach. I couldn’t carry my secret any longer. It felt like poison in my body, slowly eating away at my insides. I had to purge! I blurted out, “mom, I think I... {Download my FREE Journal Prompts HERE to assist you in your goal for increased self awareness through daily writing.} If you’re interested in booking a FREE Mini Session then use my calendar link to schedule with me. (New Clients Only) MY CALENDAR https://calendly.com/crystalescobar/30-min-free-mini-session Subscribe: Apple Podcasts | Android | RSS…

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Ep. #151: Depression | DEEP REST from the Character You're Trying to Play 28:52

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"Depression is your body saying, fuck you. I don't want to be this character anymore. I don't want to hold up this avatar you've created in the world. It's too much for me." ~Jim Carrey Everything was going great, I was on top of the world, ready to take on 2023... Then I saw her coming my way, I tried to hide so she couldn’t see me. I ducked, I pretended I didn’t see her, but nope. She spotted me with her petrifying gaze and under her spell I went. This past week I encountered my least favorite emotion, her name is DEPRESSION. She often accompanies me during the winter season of my menstrual cycle. Although I can usually expect her to arrive pretty consistently, sometimes she does’t come at all which then leads me to assume she’s gone for good. In this episode I'm sharing a sequence of recent events that triggered my inner critic which then led me in a direction that was quite enlightening. Using my winter/ hibernation season for deep rest and introspection. I'll tell you what I uncovered this month.…

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Ep #150: Is Your Brain a Dog or a Cat? 1:10:14

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We often hear people describe our inner chaos and continuous thoughts as our “monkey minds”. But tonight I want to teach you about your Dog Brain. Allow me to explain… So the dog brain. Let’s call it a Golden Retriever. Golden retrievers are a breed of dog that we know are highly intelligent and for many reasons are the dog of choice as the star in many of those feel good movies. When I think of a Golden Retriever, I think loyal, happy, playful, eager to please companions. Golden Retrievers are extremely smart and quick learners which is why this breed is commonly used for search and rescue and as service dogs. So, there is a part of our brain called the reticular activating system. This is our filter, our lens in which we perceive the world. It looks for and finds information that validates our current belief system. Language is what influences the R.A.S. Once it’s activated by the language, it goes on a search and edit mission. Searches for more of these things and edits out the rest. So just like the Golden Retriever, our R.A.S, when given a command, or SCENTence, it can be trained to search, retrieve, and rescue.…

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Ep #149: How to QUIT Sugar, Alcohol, or Coffee 30:24

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I’ve attempted to quit plenty of things over my lifetime, as we all have . But ever since 2020 I’ve discovered an entirely new level of discipline. It’s like something suddenly clicked in my brain and I was able to conquer many of my addictions, cravings, and urges. Things I’ve kicked since 2020, sugar, gluten, coffee, alcohol, pizza, chocolate, my addiction to social media, gossiping, and much much more. Since noticing this huge shift in my ability to conquer these things, I’ve began to reverse engineer what has been happening to me, which is a lot, and I’ve actually formulated a whole process that I’m now coaching people through, but I wanted to share a small piece with you today to assist you in your resolutions for 2023. My theme this year is to become a New ME in 2023 . I started setting my intensions a few weeks ago and created a free workbook for all of you. If you’re on my email list then you should have received it, if not then you can sign up via this link: http://eepurl.com/cOWSW5 The goal with this workbook is to clearly identify the person you’re hoping to step into, then identify the specific habits you need to develop in order to embody that potential you know you have. So what I’m getting at here, is that quitting anything obviously starts with HABITS and I’m going to teach you what I’ve found to be the most effective habit forming strategy. And of course, schedule a coaching session with me if you’re needing additional help and accountability. MY CALENDAR https://calendly.com/crystalescobar/30-min-free-mini-session Subscribe: Apple Podcasts | Android | RSS…

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Ep #148: WHO do you Wanna BE in 2023? 6:48

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I love this time of year! It's the time to COLLECTIVELY reflect on the previous year, and set our intentions for the new year. We often hear people say, "you don't need to wait until the new year to start making resolutions." I agree, it's good to take inventory throughout the year, pivot when needed, and continuously ignite your enthusiasm when it comes to your vision. So who do you wanna BE in 2023? Wannabe... this term usually has a derogatory meaning. It's how we usually describe someone who wants to be something they are NOT. Imatating or trying to be like someone else. But let's lighten this up a bit. Let's imagine the person we wanna BE, not coming from a place of lack or inferiority. Not because we are seeking attention, recognition, or admiration. But because deep down inside you KNOW your potential, and because you know you CAN be who you wanna BE. I can't wait to see you BECOME the person you wanna BE in 2023. Use these journal prompts I've created for you to provide clarity, and an opportunity for you to visualize and set your intension for the year. I’ve been spending the last couple of weeks really contemplating this question and visualizing my entire next year. I actually really enjoy this process of setting my intentions and planning out my year. I also love going back and reading my journal entries this time last year. It’s fun to see what I was able to create and where I was at 1 year ago. As I’ve been getting clear on who I wanna BE in 2023, I went ahead and put together a workbook that I thought others might find useful. If you’d like me to send you this 11 page workbook then just enter your email here http://eepurl.com/cOWSW5 and I’ll email it to you. {If you’re already on my list, then you will be getting the workbook in your inbox this week} Also, schedule a mini session with me if you’d like to know more about how I can help you in 2023. https://calendly.com/crystalescobar/30-min-free-mini-session…

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Ep #147: Navigating Difficult Emotions During the Holidays 55:52

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This time of year, although magical, can also be an extremely difficult time for many. For various reasons it can trigger unresolved childhood trauma, loneliness, and of course financial stress and overwhelm. So my intention for tonights call is to hold space for the loneliness, trauma, and stress, as we gently direct our focus towards healing, growth, and freedom from the past. About a month ago I broke out in this horrible rash. I was so discouraged because I’d like to believe that I’m pretty healthy and that I do what it takes to maintain optimal health. Many of us have seen tremendous results with our health and wellbeing thanks to the ER Shred protocol. But our diets can only take us so far. It can’t cure our emotional wounds. It can be a stepping stone and create a HUGE breakthrough, but it’s only a 3rd of the equation when we’re talking about holistic health. As much as I teach that health is not just about what we eat, it’s also about how well we’re able to manage our minds and emotions, this piece to the puzzle just seemed to slip past my awareness when I broke out in a rash. My first response was to blame my diet, thinking, what am I doing wrong. What supplement do I need? What should I start eating or stop eating. I skipped right past the obvious, and my focus went directly to my diet instead of looking at my stress levels and emotional health. We must always be aware of the whole, body, mind, and soul. Sometimes we need a little nudge from the people who know us best. Thank you Sean for encouraging me to look deeper. {Download my FREE Journal Prompts HERE to assist you in your goal for increased self awareness through daily writing.}…

Wannabe Balanced | MINDSET Coach

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Ep. #146: How to SIMPLIFY Your Life | When it all becomes too much 31:42

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The amount of decisions we need to make each day has only continued to increase over the past couple centuries. Think of the amount of choices we are presented with each day. Instead of having to choose between 2 or 3 options, we now have hundreds of different options in every category imaginable. Food, entertainment, drinks, clothing, skincare, cars, phones, flavors, scents. I just walked through bath and body works the other day and wow, can you believe all the different SMELLS they offer? It’s no wonder I’m always completely exhausted any time I have to go to the mall. Consumer culture is bogging us down and we don’t even realize how much it is affecting our wellbeing. Many of us struggle to remedy this decision over load. But guess what, I think I can help guide you in the right direction. If you're interested in booking a FREE Mini Session then use my calendar link to schedule with me. (New Clients Only) https://calendly.com/crystalescobar/30-min-free-mini-session…

Wannabe Balanced | MINDSET Coach

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Ep #145: Don't Take Your Personality Personally 20:02

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Don't take your personality personally, it's not you. You are the watcher, the observer, the director... Like a scientist, you learn through the experimentation of things. You are not the rat. You are gaining insights by watching the rats and how they respond and interact.

Wannabe Balanced | MINDSET Coach

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Ep #144: How to turn your DREAMS into REALITY 24:37

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When I was about 21 years old I remember telling one of my friends about my crazy life as a child. She said to me, “wow, you’re going to write a book some day”. That ONE comment sparked a tiny little flame of belief in myself. I never would have expected anyone to say something like that to me. I always believed that I wasn’t very smart. We moved about every 6 months growing up which meant I was constantly changing schools and curriculums, not to mention the adjustment period I went through each time. I was in the lowest reading level and often had to go to a separate class with the kids who needed extra help. So this sure did a number on my self esteem. Also, I was completely unaware of the growth mindset that Carol Dweck so beautifully reveals. I always believed that my genes determine my potential. I wasn’t one of the “lucky” ones. Wasn’t “blessed” with any special gifts or talents. My parents couldn’t afford to put me in dance or any sports, so I didn’t have opportunities to find out if I was even good at anything. So when my friend said this to me I just went with it. I started thinking a lot about it, imagining it, brainstorming ideas of what I could write about in a book. Five years later I started the Wannabe Balanced blog, ten years after that I wrote that book! Download the FREE workbook I created for you. ( http://www.wannabebalanced.com/Desires-Into-Reality )…

Wannabe Balanced | MINDSET Coach

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Ep #143: I Want it NOW! | Delayed Gratification 12:26

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Let’s talk about the marshmallow experiment, except we are going to use eggs instead of marshmallows . Are you a one (instant gratification) or 2 (delayed gratification) kinda person? Don’t forget to join me live on Facebook, Thursday (6:00pm MST) night for our monthly MINDSET call. Also check out my recent YouTube video sharing how I chose what to wear each day and have minimized my wardrobe in order to avoid decision fatigue. And if you’re interested in my Time Management course then schedule a FREE mini session with me to start out.…

Wannabe Balanced | MINDSET Coach

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Ep #142: Diary of a Teenage Girl 10:26

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Spent some time over the weekend reading journal entries from when I was in highschool. It’s so fun for me to look back on the person I was then. To visit the 16-18 year old version of me. Lots of thoughts come to my mind. Wondering how differnt I might have been as a teen if I understood my emotions. I had no clue the effect hormones were having on my mind. Wondering how different my experience might have been if I understood how much emotions, beliefs, and thoughts were impacting my outlook on life and my own self worth. If my 40 year old self could have just one hour to talk to my 20 year old self, how cool would that be? First off, I’d tell her she has nothing to worry about. I worried so much about my future happiness, and I feared being alone & unloved more than anything. I would spend some time explaining how the mind works, about thoughts, emotions, hormones, and my beliefs. I would teach her about the growth mindset. I would tell her to embrace her sexuality and to stop feeling ashamed about all of it. I would explain to her about truth being subjective, and what I know now about religion and how beliefs are just beliefs, and that I don’t HAVE to adopt them. Especially if they are causing me pain and suffering. So many things I’d like to tell her if I had the chance. What would you say to your teenage self?…

Wannabe Balanced | MINDSET Coach

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Ep #141: Relationship Talk and Update on Life After Mormonism 8:53

il y a 2 years8:53

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Uploading more bite sized episodes, sharing pieces of some of my recent coaching sessions. The kids are back in school and I've been joyously working on my schedule, routines, and time management. Speaking of which, I'm now offering a 4 week one on one Time Management package for $111. I will help you plan out your time in a way that creates more balance, efficiency, and productivity. Time management is one of my super powers! I get so giddy any time I get to help someone in this area. If you're needing help with managing your time, then I'm your gal. Schedule a free session with me using my calendar link: https://calendly.com/crystalescobar/1-hour-coaching-session There we will be able to discuss ore about how I can help you balance your life and your time. In a nutshell, this package includes weekly 30 min. one on one coaching/ planning sessions, weekly to do's and do don'ts, as well as a live class where I go into all of my time management tips and answer all of your burning questions.…

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Ep #140: ALL or NOTHING Mentality 45:27

il y a 3 years45:27

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The ALL or NOTHING mentality is a cognitive distortion that results in depressions, anxiety, procrastination, binging, and completely sabotaging your progress. It's a black and white way of thinking, perfectionist syndrome, causing you to see reality in extremes. It's good or it's bad... Right or wrong... Success or complete failure... Where does this mentality stem from? I believe it's simply the natural evolution of the human experience. Just like new born babies are only able to see in black and white, but over time the begin to develop the ability to see shades of grey, and then even color. Historically speaking, we come from generations of black and white thinking. Religion and politics are great examples of how this mentality has perpetuated over centuries. Democrats and Republicans, heaven or hell, good vs. evil, true or false, worthy or unworthy. More often than not we find that one group believes they are right and everyone else is wrong. No disrespect intended towards religion or politics, I believe humanity has come a long way in this arena. This mentality has spilled over into a lot of parenting styles, then we wonder why we as adults struggle with this. Anyone come from a home where anything less than an A is unacceptable? Believing that punishment and shame will keep us from doing "bad things", using fear as a motivator... it may have worked in the short-term, but look at the long-term repercussions. Fear as a motivator is just not sustainable. It will never produce lasting results, it only keeps you stuck in unhealthy patterns.…

Wannabe Balanced | MINDSET Coach

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Ep #139: Dopamine Reset 13:17

il y a 3 years13:17

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Indulgences are not bad, it's all about finding a healthy balance and taking breaks from these things for a period of time in order to reset and gain even more control over your urges and cravings. Here's a new video Sean and I recorded, talking about the ER Shred being the perfect Dopamine Reset and how this can be a useful tool in other areas of our lives. www.ERShred.com…

Wannabe Balanced | MINDSET Coach

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Ep #138: Things are shifting for ALL of us... 7:35

il y a 3 years7:35

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New season of life… We are all finding ourselves in a new season, unlike anything we’ve ever experienced before. A lot of uncertainty and unknowns can feel pretty scary. I hear yah. The last 4-5 years has caused me to do a lot of soul searching and introspection. Unearthing all kinds of things about myself that I was completely unaware of. It’s become somewhat of an obsession to understand myself and human nature for that matter. In this process of self discovery I began craving opportunities to help others work through the same things I’ve been working through. Finding what my emotional triggers are and getting to the root of them. Healing old wounds and rewiring my brain. It’s been a journey and I’m still on it, but I feel more equipped than ever before to help people out of their own ruts and painful patterns. Schedule your free session with me below. https://calendly.com/crystalescobar/1-hour-coaching-session…

Wannabe Balanced | MINDSET Coach

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Ep #137: Saying Goodbye 🥲 4:37

il y a 3 years4:37

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There will always come a time in life when we have to say goodbye... Relationships... Homes... Religion, community, neighborhood... Impermanence is the very nature of life. Music by: Bensound.com

Wannabe Balanced | MINDSET Coach

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Ep #136: Wanna Feel Better 9:50

il y a 3 years9:50

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I'm all about feeling better not only physically, but feeling better holistically. MIND 🧠 BODY 💪🏼 & SOUL 🧘‍♀️ Let me walk you through how I coach myself through various things that I struggle with myself. Submit your questions: https://tinyurl.com/2p8fc2hf Print out your worksheet. https://tinyurl.com/2p975h86…

Wannabe Balanced | MINDSET Coach

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Ep #135: BELIEFS and How to Change Them 59:31

il y a 3 years59:31

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Innocently many of us believe that our life circumstances are what make us feel good or bad, happy or sad, angry or peaceful. I used to believe that my happiness came from other people's love and appreciation for me, or when you make a lot of money, or when you reach your goal weight, are from being in a loving relationship. We grow up learning that happiness must come from within, but I never understood HOW to do that. Some things in life we perceive as GOOD and others we perceive as BAD. We live life, hoping, praying, and even begging for more "good" to come our way so that we can be happy. We fail to realize that what we classify as good and bad is all subjective. It's in our own minds. Everything in life starts out as NEUTRAL, but then our minds are what judge, label, and categorize things. It's our thoughts, beliefs, preferences, and opinions that separate them into the good and bad categories. When we clean up our minds, then is when we begin to take our power back. No longer are we at the affect of our circumstances, we are only at the effect of our beliefs about them. Finally I'm understanding what it means to find peace from within. It means working on our beliefs, not attempting to change what I can't control, but control what I CAN change... My BELIEFS. If you plan to join me tonight then be sure to print out this worksheet I put together. I'll explain on the call how to use it. http://www.wannabebalanced.com/.../Wannabe-Feel-Better...…

Wannabe Balanced | MINDSET Coach

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Ep #134: I Accept I do NOT Know 23:27

il y a 3 years23:27

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"I don't know..." Is that a statement we should learn to get comfortable with? Is it the way to creative flow? Or is it a statement the BLOCKS the creative flow? A way of giving up? Or is it surrendering to the higher power within us? Depends on how YOU want to interpret it. It has everything to do with the meaning you put behind it. You can say, "I don't know" then decide you'll NEVER know. Or you can say, "I don't know" with the confidence that the next step or idea will revealed THROUGH the acceptance of not knowing. Question is, how does this statement make you FEEL? Defeated or Empowered?…

Wannabe Balanced | MINDSET Coach

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Ep. #133: No Shame, No Blame, Life is a Game 25:20

il y a 3 years25:20

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Some guilt crept up in me the other day as I was remembering something. I realized I had yet to resolve this in my mind. My goal is to be extra attentive each time a past memory or thought comes into my mind and it causes a low vibe emotion. I want to gather all the pieces to the story and see if I can rewrite it. I still hold guilt for Owen’s ear. Two reasons come to mind when I think about what may have caused his birth defect. Let’s start with not calling it a birth defect, not that I necessarily want to pull the wool over my eyes and not recognize mistakes or consider how I could have done things differently, but what’s done is done and I can only move forward in the way I see it and describe it, I don’t want to project my mistakes onto Owen. So calling it a defect makes me feel like I’m describing him as not whole. I will never gain with blame. I will only gain by honoring how the experience has contributed to my wakening of the dream we all find ourselves in. It’s the nightmares that tend to wake us up. Then we SEE that the tiger chasing us is not even real. We wake up, safe in our beds, and recognize the peace around us. But even awakening from the dream is a cycle. We go back to sleep and we dream again. So it’s not like you have an awakening and suddenly you’re awake for the rest of your life. You go to sleep again, and you dream. But there is such thing as lucid dreaming, which I believe is the goal. To allow yourself to sleep and be immersed in the dream, but you KNOW you’re dreaming, therefore you don’t get so emotionally caught up in the dream. It becomes more fun and playful.…

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Ep #132: No Filter 12:24

il y a 3 years12:24