Smarter Parenting is moving in wonderful ways to help families. In order to do that we are making some changes in how we present the lessons and skills we share on the smarterparenting.com website. To do this, we are going to be taking a break from producing new podcasts and from coaching to focus our attention on making these changes happen. Smart…

There are so many skills that contribute to managing your child's behavior. One that often stumps parents is what to do the moment your child acts poorly. The skill of Correcting Behaviors is built to support that. You can access free tools and resources to help you use this skill our website www.smarterparenting.com…

What do you do when you issue a consequence for negative behaviors, and your child accepts it, but there is still something that needs to be fixed? This podcast answers that question.Par ADHDSmarterParenting

Are you looking for the secret sauce to change a child's behavior? It's Role-playing! A newly released study found that new experiences helped to change a child with ADHD's brain. This finding is super exciting as it gives credence to using behavior skills to help a child better manage a diagnosis or reduce negative behavior. It also confirms that …

Effective Praise is simultaneously one of our least requested BUT most taught skills. Many parents come to us saying, "I just need to know what consequence will fix ___" but our coaches know from piles of research and years of experience that a consequence isn't going to magically fix that. Parenting Coach Kimber Petersen explains why Effective Pra…

When one child takes all the focus and attention because of behavioral issues, it can be difficult for the whole family. Often a child who isn't causing problems may be overlooked, or a child may act up to get their parent's attention. In this episode of the ADHD Smarter Parenting Podcast, Parenting Coach Siope Kinikini, walks parents through what …

One of the critical lessons we teach at Smarter Parenting is Preventive Teaching. There is so much power in preparing your child, setting expectations, and practicing something before they face it in real life. In a world with so much risk, how do we teach our children to be safe or to seek safety when they're not feeling it? Parenting Coach Kimber…

Is your child with ADHD expressing violent behaviors? Are you wondering how to best deal when they are out of control? If so, this podcast teaches parents what they need to do when their child becomes violent or out of control. When your child is out of control, the goal is to help bring them safely back into control. We want to do this by using th…

In today's episode, Parenting Coach Siope Kinikini discusses five tips for parents dealing with tantrum behaviors. These tips include focusing on the behavior and not the issue of the tantrum to refocus the child on adjusting the behavior, eliminating the audience, maintaining composure for the parent, describing the expected behavior, and praising…

Today's podcast gives hope to parents who worry about their children with ADHD being successful long-term as Issac Eaves join us. While many view ADHD as a handicap, we believe ADHD can be a superpower. As a child with ADHD, Isaac struggled, especially with schedules. His struggles lead to the creation of the Joon App, which helps children with ADH…

Siope discusses the new challenge for parents that previous generations of parents have not had to deal with, namely, electronic devices. More and more children are acting out when asked to stop using electronic devices. What can parents do to help their children navigate their use of devices and the need for a positive environment in the home? Usi…

Continuing our mini-series of breaking down the Smarter Parenting skills is skill number 4: Effective Communication. Communicating with your child or even your partner can be improved by practicing this simple skill. Often we hear parents AND children report that the other person just doesn't listen. This skill helps both sides feel heard and value…

Role-playing can make parents nervous. In this episode, we talk about ways you already see Role-plays at work and how easy it can be to use them. It's amazing to see some of the immediate changes that can happen after a parent Role-plays an expectation. Think about it, would you bring your child to the soccer playoffs without ever practicing? No wa…

Many parents give a consequence expecting it will stop the behavior and are surprised when it doesn't. Giving an effective consequence isn't easy. In fact, for a consequence to work, it needs to include five key elements: Immediacy, Size, Frequency, Importance, and Varied. The best way to teach a child isn't through consequences. Because consequenc…

Parenting Coach Siope Kinikini answers more parenting questions about children who struggle with out-of-control behaviors. Such as why it takes a child with ADHD so much time to do simple tasks. How children with ADHD are motivated differently than neurotypical children. Concerns about the future of children with ADHD.…

Siope answers questions parents have sent in to Smarter Parenting regarding how to deal with various issues such as: co-parenting, constant arguing, how to use rewards effectively, why boys are more frequently diagnosed with ADHD as opposed to girls, etc.Par ADHDSmarterParenting

Kids with ADHD can have difficulty setting and accomplishing goals. In today's podcast, ADHD expert Siope Kinikini shares three things that will help a child, or anyone, with ADHD, be successful when establishing goals. The three things covered are: How to set appropriate goals. Basing outcomes on feelings vs. actions Anchoring goals We want to giv…

In our series, we are reviewing the skill of Observe and Describe and how it helps bring clarity to communication between parents and children. This helps both the parent and child reach better understanding in both positive and negative situations that can lead to better communication and the resolution to problems.…

For the next few weeks, we will review the skills taught on Smarterparenting.com. This week we are focusing on the ABC's of Behavior. The ABC's of Behavior is a tool parents can use to figure out why a behavior is happening and then take the appropriate steps to keep the behavior from happening again or promoting repeat behavior. The ABC's of Behav…

Do you ever feel like electronics are taking over your child's life? Do they have a problem getting off their phone, tablet, computer, game, or TV? It can be tricky to help our children learn how to use electronics appropriately, as we must teach them how to use them in a beneficial and not harmful way for their growth. In today's podcast, Parentin…

Have you ever tried to get your child to clean their room, and they aren't interested, and that lack of interest causes tension, and you don't want all that tension? Motiving your child can be incredibly frustrating. The SODAS Method can make helping your child easier. Everyone is either motivated by intrinsic or external factors. When we do someth…

Bedtime can be a battlefield for most families but especially for families managing ADHD. But, why is it a fight? What needs to change? Do you as the parent have appropriate expectations? In this episode we break bedtime into three different phases, after listening consider what phase isn't going well in your home. You can focus on one area or you …

Join Siope in talking about the brain and how Role Playing makes a big difference when learning new things.Par ADHDSmarterParenting

If you wake up on the morning of your dentist appointment with the motivation to make up for the last six months through one really great teeth brushing session it's unlikely you'll make a difference. Much of our health and well being is built up of small, daily choices that culminate into a meaningful impact. Our relationship with our children is …

In this episode Siope breaks down Effective Communication and how you, as a parent, can apply Gottman's principle of Bids for Connection to your parent-child relationship.Par ADHDSmarterParenting

Siope discusses the often connected relationship between ADHD and ODD, including the criteria for ODD and how to use Effective Praise to help with both problems. It is always recommended to work with a mental health professional in your area as well if you need to help. Coaching is available to help support your efforts in the home and with your ch…

When you have a child with ADHD it can be so challenging to manage impulsive behaviors. In this episode we talk about how to use the skill Correcting Behaviors to help guide you through what to do when your child is struggling with a boundary you've set.Par ADHDSmarterParenting

So many parents want to skip straight to "what do I do when my child acts out??". What you do BEFORE and AFTER the problem behavior really matters which is why we teach the skill Correcting Behaviors. While this is the content that most parents are wanting to jump straight into we want to remind you that this is only a small part of creating change…

Learn how to customize chore charts to the needs of your child with some simple considerations. Siope shares insights into things parents can do to spruce up the effectiveness of a chore chart and emphasizes the need for parents to use the skill of Effective Communication in the process. A chore chart can be a helpful way for children to do things …

Today's podcast welcomes guest, Amanda Neely, who works as a professional parent in a treatment program for teens. Amanda has been a parent to her own toddler, a guardian to her teenage siblings, and a professional parent for dozens of kids needing treatment and support. Amanda shares how the Smarter Parenting skills she's learned have changed her …

In this podcast you'll find out why "Strength Based" is such an important framework in the mental health field and why you, as a parent, need to use it too. Raising kids comes with a hefty dose of humility, there is so much that parents do and learn as they raise kids. It is easy to get lost in what isn't going right when frustrating behaviors aris…

What is Complex ADHD and why should parents be aware of it? The diagnosis of ADHD may not give parents a complete understanding of their child's behavior. Understanding the limitations of a diagnosis of ADHD and that something more could be contributing to problem behaviors can help parents find better solutions to help their children. Siope explai…

How can you talk to your child about ADHD? How can you communicate with extended family members who may not understand ADHD what it is without judgment? During this podcast, Siope discusses the approach recommended for talking to children and teens about ADHD and how to communicate about it with family members that may not understand it. Focusing o…

Listen in as Siope breaks down decision paralysis and how it effects anyone, but especially those with ADHD. Siope offers simple, effective solutions as you work to overcome decision paralysis in your home.Par ADHDSmarterParenting

Today's podcast addresses the hard conversations that parents around the world are facing: how to make sense of the world when things seem so chaotic. This is such a difficult time for children to understand what is happening or feel safe. Siope and Kimber talk about using Effective Communication and child led questioning to navigate challenging co…

Role-playing is a powerful tool to help your child learn new behaviors. In this podcast, Kimber, talks about the importance of role-playing to correct negative behaviors, when to do it, and how. This is a great way to begin the process of making permanent changes to your child's misbehaviors. Role-playing specifies the appropriate behaviors you wou…

The last in a series of three podcasts on "Love Languages" presented by Kimber where she discusses how to use parenting skills while keeping in mind the way your child will better connect with you. Kimber discusses the final three topics: Gifts, Quality Time, and Acts of Service with the skill of Effective Communication.…

Understanding how your child communicates and accepts love and feedback can greatly improve your effectiveness as a parent. Using skills and understanding physical touch and words of affirmation are discussed in this second in a series that covers "Love Languages."Par ADHDSmarterParenting

The first in a series of podcasts on Love Languages and the Parenting skills from Smarter Parenting to improve the connection you have with your children.Par ADHDSmarterParenting

Being an effective parent is much more than following a checklist. To be an effective parent you need to understand how your child works and then adapt to that. This adaption is called the artistic side of parenting. The skills taught on Smarter Parenting help parents combine the technical and the artistic side of parenting allowing parents to be s…

Are you an adult who has ADHD or think you may have ADHD? This podcast is for you as ADHD Parenting Coach Siope Kinikini discusses ADHD in adults and tips for managing it. When they receive an ADHD diagnosis for their child, many parents may recognize having similar symptoms or challenges, especially when they were younger, and believe they have AD…

Today's podcast goes over how an ADHD diagnosis is reached. What other issues may also be present, and how parents can use skills to create connections with their children. A diagnosis does not cover all the symptoms and will not look the same for every child. Some children may present more of one symptom and not others. Getting an official diagnos…

If you want a better relationship with your child, learn how to give Effective Praise. Effective Praise isn't complicated, but it will change how you see your child and how your child sees you. Effective Praise helps you see--and recognize--what your child is doing well. Noticing what our child is doing well can be challenging for most parents, esp…

Successful adults are those who have learned how to be resilient. If you want your child to be successful in the future, you need to teach them how to be resilient. Being resilient means helping them approach new situations and setbacks in positive, not negative, ways. Some things that resilient children do: Communicate effectively. By expressing h…

Raising resilient children is something that parents hope to teach their children. Today's podcast discusses three things parents can do to prepare their children to deal with problems, conflicts, and growth successfully. Today's episode is part one, and next week's podcast will finish up the discussion. To raise successful children, they need tool…

As parents, we can be terrible about practicing self-care. Practicing self-care is vital in helping us be our best. When we don't practice self-care, we give less than our best to our family. Self-care allows us to recharge and refocus, enabling us to tackle everything we are required to do better. It can feel like we have no time for self-care or …

Do you want to be the best parent you can be? Smarter Parenting is here to help you! Smarter Parenting teaches parents the best evidenced-based and researched parenting skills that focus on helping parents raise resilient, well-rounded, and successful kids. Our goal is to help strengthen and improve relationships while giving our children the tools…

Many children struggle with managing expectations and emotions during the holidays. The behavior skill of Role-play teaches children what is expected in various situations--from holiday shopping to parties. Knowing how they can appropriately respond when they are overwhelmed or excited can go a long way in reducing the meltdowns or craziness they m…

Nothing pushes most parents' buttons more than when their child argues when asked to do something. When a child argues, it can often quickly escalate, pulling in all sorts of wrongs, emotions, and even personal attacks. When a child is arguing, it is not the time to teach them life lessons or what they should be doing. Instead, your goal should be …

Effective Praise is powerful in teaching our kids gratitude. Effective Praise teaches us to recognize effort and change and then express why that effort means something to us. Effective Praise is more than just telling someone, "Good job." Rather it's telling them exactly what they did well--no matter how little that progress may be. For example, y…