158: Navigating the Choices and Challenges of Dating and Relationship Building with Matthew and Orna Walters

Not Over, Just Different

In this podcast episode, Natalie Ledwell sits down with relationship experts and long-time couple, Matthew and Orna Walters, to discuss the often-elusive topic of how to select your ideal mate. The conversation delves into common pitfalls that people fall into when searching for love, such as letting past experiences or societal myths influence their choices. Matthew and Orna emphasize the importance of being clear about what you want in a partner, and not getting caught up in feelings of instant intimacy. They also discuss the idea of "slow love" and the importance of actively choosing and working on a relationship. With 15 years together and 13 years of marriage under their belts, Matthew and Orna share valuable insights and practical advice for those looking to find their perfect match.
0:00 Today’s Topic: How to select your ideal mate.
3:29 The myth that love is something that happens when you least expect it.
7:37 Love isn’t something that happens to you, it’s a consistent action.
11:09 We are attracted to what is familiar and this is due to species survival.
14:57 You don’t jump into a relationship before you really know who this person is.
18:47 When you jump in right away, you’re really slowing things down.
22:45 Three must haves, three deal breakers and everything else is negotiable.
26:10 If you’re willing to wiggle on your celebrity crush, it’s not a deal breaker.
29:39 Where can we send people to find more about Love On Purpose?
Episode Transcription

Release imposter syndrome and the fear of making a “wrong” decision. Lean in to the power of your own inner voice and lead a life fully aligned with your purpose, with power and certainty. Subscribe to Not Over, Just Different for more clarity, community and confidence through the next stage of your life.