TbP 09: Dating in Yr 30s (f/ Peter & Brian)

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This week on Talking bout Practice, Billy Ray Stupendous and I are joined by cat gentlemen/dangerous Lotharios Peter and Brian to talk bout adventures and misadventures in love. Should one bring porn to a date, just in case ? How young is too young ? If Billy Joel is not a dealbreaker, what is ? What are our ethical responsibilities to our Internet lovers ? Exactly how long is th long back end of love ? Once upon a time, these men did not know, but now they definitely do, and should you listen to all two and a half hours of this, so will you. (Length compounded by my accidental appending of a something like 9-minute-long song twice @ th end of th podcast.) Bone appetite
Table of contents:

00:00 "Getting Older" performed by th Clean
04:29 Intros | What has been the worst date you've ever been on? | Brian's story Pt 1
06:59 How old were you when you got married ?
08:10 Brian's story Pt 2: th performance artist
16:19 Women are better @ shutting it down
17:42 Brian's story Pt 3: trapped two hours from home
20:37 Vegans are bad news
21:13 Brian's story Pt 4: porno mags
25:16 Threshold of psychological unattractiveness | projection of desire | "I need you to be decisive"
28:49 ASMR videos | conversing w/ a person who's no longer in yr life
34:21 Perfunctory rituals vs appreciating th moment
35:55 Bringing porn to dates | Peter's story Pt 1: th chief resident and th medical student | A lot of physicians are losers
43:51 Peter's story Pt 2: flustered by chopsticks
47:51 Baseline vulnerability | Do you like it when you feel nervous ?
51:20 Not currently dating, no intention to | being mindful of biological clocks
57:19 Shortcut questions | What's the difference between Internet dating & traditional dating? | Some heuristics work better than others
1:01:36 Being decisive in one's personal life & being on the same page re what you want
1:02:45 "The experience that women have of men in everyday life is largely a negative one" | on th usefulness of dating site filters | Eran's OKCupid profile is a beautiful thing
1:05:02 OKC, verbal abuse, & dick pics: a debate
1:26:07 Risk management | snapshot of Peter's flying cock
1:27:42 MZA bathroom break | on quitting OKC | "We're getting old for this technology"
1:29:51 On age differences
1:32:35 "What is your age floor for dating?" | "What are your baseline requirements?" | Peter bathroom break | no checklist | differential wisdom
1:41:13 The long view | differential rates of change | cameos: Brian's cat, Peter's cat | You can't predict th unpredictable
1:47:30 A tweet from Mark Leidner | "the parasite inside your brain that is forcing you to make more humans" | the spark vis-à-vis the back end of love
1:51:00 Why you need drugs | Claudia Sherman doesn't want to be to be another person's sherpa | Rubik cleanses his own anus
1:54:02 Dominance/submission compatibility
1:56:13 "Things could always be worse" | money, career, & class compatibility
2:01:03 Longest podcast, officially | a request for dick pics | reminiscence on boob shots in fuckyoucrew
2:04:49 A tweet re I Corinthians 13 (the bridesmaid's verse) | getting perspective on hard endings
2:12:19 Last words ? | hunting vs gathering vs fishing | "crazy pickup artist guys" | Peter & Brian ask each other out
2:18:27 Bonus Track: kick out th jams two times, or a tribute to love's long back end