Emotional Self Check // Tamara Lichfield

Hey, Sister!

Life coach Tamara Lichfield shares with sisters Courtney and Carley the basics of healthy connection—communication styles to avoid and listening strategies to incorporate. This episode is part 1 in a 3-part series with Tamara about preparing oneself to make healthy connections.

Resources

Connect with Tamara

• http://www.becomingshatterproof.us
• https://www.facebook.com/becomingshatterproof/

Connect with Courtney and Carley

• heysisterpodcast.org
• https://www.instagram.com/theheysisterpodcast/
• https://www.facebook.com/heysisterpodcast

Timeline

0:00 Introduction of guest expert and topic

4:00 Emotional check-in: self-regulation, expressing emotions including anger

12:00 Creating healthy connections—communications to avoid: criticism, defensiveness, contempt and stonewalling (plus antedates for each)

23:00 Parts of the brain: 1) Amygdala = primitive brain = survival brain = reptilian brain. 2) Prefrontal cortex = executive brain = logical brain.

24:45 Healthy connection practices: listen more than you talk, make eye contact, watch for non-verbal cues, listen without judgment, be reflective, ask curiosity questions, keep body posture open, lean in, be comfortable with a little bit of silence, give undivided attention, be genuine with compliments and specific with praise

28:00 Tangent about Win a Date with Tad Hamilton and the seven smiles

30:45 Final healthy connection practice (vulnerability), concluding thoughts, outtakes