Ep 23 - The Best Reframe for Envy and Comparisonitis

Inspiring Women in Business

Is it necessarily bad to feel envious or jealous? Should we really be ashamed of these emotions? Or do they give us a clue of what we truly desire to take action on them?

International Women's Day is happening this month and today, I really wanted to do an episode around working collaboratively, supporting each other, and empowering other women, which is a huge value of mine. But as I started to write this episode I wanted to talk about more about the days when you don’t feel like that. In this episode, I talked about the best reframe for envy of comparisonitis that would make room for effectively collaborating and supporting others.

Key takeaways from this episode:

Collaborating rather than competing means you really believe there's enough out there for everyone.

People can support each other without any agenda.

It's normal to feel envious or compare yourself but you can always strive to be the best version of yourself.

When you envy someone, you don't necessarily want to take something away from them or wish something bad for them, you envy what they have or how they got it.

Jealousy is something you can be curious about or something you can explore.

Our emotions make us aware of what we truly desire and we can take action on those desires.

When you truly allow yourself to explore your feelings, be human, and be curious about what emotion or belief is telling you then you can make more room for abundance, collaboration, generosity, and supporting others.

Episode Timeline:

0:04 Intro

1:20 Episode Intro

1:50 Collaborating rather than competing

2:28 The joy of supporting and collaborating with others

4:21 Days we don't feel at our best

7:13 The feeling of envy isn't necessarily bad

9:20 The best reframe for comparisonitis

10:12 Why we feel ashamed of being jealous or envious.

11:07 How we can make more room for abundance, collaboration, generosity, and supporting others.

11:59 Outro

More about Ruth:

Hi, I’m Ruth, a business coach specializing in helping freelancers and business owners adjust their mindset and their marketing so they can get fully booked with clients they LOVE to work with. I’ve helped hundreds of self-employed women achieve the time and money freedom they craved.

I’ve started this podcast because when I first went all in and left the corporate world to be a freelancer, I was grateful for any work that came my way. After over 20 years of freelancing and working for other people, I started to realize I’d created a glass ceiling for myself.

In 2017, I finally started listening to that voice that had been telling me for a long time that I wasn’t doing what I loved and fulfilling my true potential. It took a critical illness to give me that wake-up call. I don’t want the same to happen to you.

You can expect practical advice, inspiring stories, and a lot of aha moments as we uncover and kick to the curb all the obstacles you have been putting in your way.

I’m on a mission to inspire women to start and play bigger in business.

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