Overcoming Loneliness

Sacred by Design

H.A.L.T is a powerful tool used in recovery. Each letter represents a different risk state that can lead you to your drug of choice (H Hungry, A Angry, L Lonely, T Tired).
In this episode of Sacred by Design, we’re exploring the risk state of Loneliness. Out of the 4, loneliness feels the most risky and vulnerable to talk about.
So, we’re talking about it.

Highlights:
In your journey towards sexual wholeness, acknowledge that loneliness is powerful and not something to be brushed off. Whether you’re addicted to alcohol, food, sex - the acronym HALT is a powerful tool in recovery.
Learning to recognize loneliness and even appreciate loneliness as a risk state can be Step One.
When you recognize loneliness, do you panic? You may find yourself asking, “How do I get out of this? How do I not feel this?
Try to stop and ask yourself, “What’s going on for me right now? What am I feeling here? What am I looking for here? ”
Pray for Discernment- Is it asking yourself: “Is there something really wrong here that I need to fix?” Or is it more of a statement: “I want to be more deeply, more fully known. And I can’t have that from the people in my life right now.”
We are all deeply wired to be known and to be loved. That’s a good and beautiful part of ourselves. If there’s a longing that needs to be met; then we will seek it out in other ways whether that’s conscious or not.
But we see this in lots of different ways - we might react, we might even push people away or protest even though we want that the most. We so want connection, to be seen by others.
It is a hard thing to slow down enough to say “I’m feeling lonely. I am sacred by design. God’s given me this desire to be known and loved. That’s a good part of me and God, I’m really feeling that longing right now. Could you be with me in it.”
Spiritual Practice:
LECTIO DIVINA = (Read once, read a second time and ask the Lord to give you a word or phrase, read a third time asking God what He wants to teach you through that word or phrase)
Psalm 71
You can just listen and follow along

In you O Lord do I take refuge.

Let me not be put to shame

In your righteousness, deliver me and rescue me

Incline your ear to me

Be to me a rock of refuge to which I may continually come

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