09 The Shame of Rape: Shelley Dee

Just Out of Curiosity with Shelley Dee

And so, my curiosity today leads to a topic that I’ve wanted to talk about for a while as its something pretty personal to myself (and it must be to others). Sex and what can happen when our clothes come off can be a pretty special thing between people- when done consensually. Unfortunately, there are ugly sides to non-consent and we don’t spend a lot of time talking about it.

This will be an interesting episode because this is my episode. I’ve been involved in non-consensual activity and I spent a lot of time with that shame. No matter how much you can appear to be okay, there’s that judgement in the back of your head telling you how you messed up. And that’s the worst part about rape and non-consent, the victim (someone that had something done to them) is the one blamed when someone non-consensually takes advantage of them. It makes me sick that we still live in this world where we talk less about the attacker and more on how the victim is to be blamed.

And instead of living in that shame, I’m choosing to talk about it. I’ve brought back Dr. Stephen DeWit, Sexologist to help navigate this episode with me.

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