Ep 7: Abandonment Issues and Attachment Wounds in Relationships w/ Dr. Christine Coleman

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In this episode of The Glow Up Season Podcast, I dive deep into abandonment issues.

Listen in as I enlist the help of an expert to break down what fear of abandonment is and some of the signs and behaviors associated with fear of abandonment. My lovely guest, Dr. Christine Coleman, shares her story with abandonment issues and how she overcame them, then shares tangible tools you can use to move past your struggles with abandonment and anxiety. To top it all off, she offers insight into how to find closure.

Dr. Coleman is a family and marriage therapist, a professional in the field of psychology, and to be honest, she’s kind of my idol! She’s a philanthropist, consultant, and speaker who specializes in gender and racial justice and has been serving women, adolescents, and BIPOC on issues of attachment trauma for many years.

Do you find yourself committed to or attached to people very quickly?

Do you sacrifice your own needs in order to fulfill your partner’s needs?

Have you stayed in neglectful or abusive relationships, doing anything to make it work?

Do you avoid emotional intimacy?

You’re not the only one.

Abandonment issues may be rooted in different kinds of trauma or difficult experiences prior in life. If you’re not shown what healthy and respectful love looks like while you’re growing up, it’s going to be more difficult to emulate that in your relationships as an adult.

When Dr. Coleman was fed up with the fear and generational trauma she was carrying with her, she made a declaration to do the work that was necessary to heal. No joke, three weeks after she made that shift, she met her husband!

Healing is powerful, ladies, and it’s so attainable!

“Our trauma, our hurt, is not our fault all the time but it is our responsibility to heal.” - Dr. Christine Coleman

In This Episode You Will Learn:

All about Dr. Christine Coleman (4:29)

Signs of fear of abandonment in relationships (7:52)

How Dr. Coleman experienced abandonment issues (14:06)

The 3 styles of attachment + Taking responsibility for your healing (34:04)

6 ways to work through abandonment issues (44:49)

Tips for finding closure (1:01:43)

Questions Answered:

What was your family dynamic like and how did that impact you? (17:06)

What caused you to heal your fear of abandonment? What changed once you started tackling your abandonment issues? (21:16)

What are abandonment issues and where do they come from? (30:00)

Should I confront the person that abandoned me? (59:19)

What would you say to someone who feels like they can never break free from their abandonment issues? (1:05:00)

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Visit her website: www.drchristinecoleman.com

Learn more about Sol Sisters: www.solsisters.org

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