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#35 Think Marriage and Kids is the Key to Your Happiness with Carrie Reinagel
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It’s been hardwired into women for generations that career comes second to marriage and kids. That they should sacrifice all their needs and wants in exchange for a family.
In fact, in the 1950s, most women who went to college were after a ‘Mrs degree’ (term for going to college to find a husband). But what these women were really after was security and stability. Because if they had a man with a good job, they would be safe.
The problem with this model is you have to depend on a man for your survival. You trade autonomy and control over your own life for security. And if the relationship is terrible, your choices are: stay and suffer or leave and risk homelessness or starvation.
And even though women know they don’t “need” a man to survive anymore that old programming is still there. They think they’ll have to give up their career to start a family. And when that’s the case, why find a perfect-for-you career you love–only to have to give it up? (Giving up what you love is hard and painful.)
Perhaps you can relate.
Maybe you didn’t meet the “one” in college, but you knew it’d happen one day. Plenty of women are getting married and having kids in their 30s.
You knew you needed a degree to get a job. But you didn’t put much effort into figuring out your dream career in college. Instead, you studied something that you liked but it had minimal real-world application. You didn’t do any internships or find a mentor. Because you knew that one day you’d have to walk away from your career to have kids.
And when you got out of school, job hunting was dismal. You weren’t really interested in the places that would hire you. But you had to do something to pay the bills.
So you took an in-the-meantime job, and you had some not-so-great relationships.
And one by one the years slipped by. You got new jobs and had new relationships.
But the jobs got worse, and so did the relationships. They don’t listen, they don’t support, and they take way more than they give.
You try to deny it, but deep down you know you’re sinking into a depressive loop. Doom scrolling on job boards and dating sites hasn’t worked in the past, yet it is your go-to action when things fall apart.
Do you know what doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result is called?
Yep–INSANITY.
At what point do you say enough is enough? At what point do you stop waiting for marriage and kids and start living your life NOW?
You know I love helping people get amazing, fulfilling careers they love! And I love the moment where people are finally willing to go after the best lives and careers for them NOW. When they stop waiting for the someday crap that may or may not happen.
So I am super excited about talking to Holistic Coach & Philanthropist, Carrie Reinagel. She spent decades chasing marriage and kids. And even started and ran a wellness company for 21 years while she “waited.” She sold her company and is finally ready to create the life and homestead she’s always wanted–by herself and on her terms.
Connect to Carrie
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/carrie.reinagel
Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carriereinagel/
Email: carriereinagel@gmail.com
Connect to Genea:
Website: http://geneabarnes.com/
Free Career Guide: http://elevatefreegift.com/
Book a Call with Genea: http://elevatebookacall.com/
79 episodes
Manage episode 355843162 series 2895935
It’s been hardwired into women for generations that career comes second to marriage and kids. That they should sacrifice all their needs and wants in exchange for a family.
In fact, in the 1950s, most women who went to college were after a ‘Mrs degree’ (term for going to college to find a husband). But what these women were really after was security and stability. Because if they had a man with a good job, they would be safe.
The problem with this model is you have to depend on a man for your survival. You trade autonomy and control over your own life for security. And if the relationship is terrible, your choices are: stay and suffer or leave and risk homelessness or starvation.
And even though women know they don’t “need” a man to survive anymore that old programming is still there. They think they’ll have to give up their career to start a family. And when that’s the case, why find a perfect-for-you career you love–only to have to give it up? (Giving up what you love is hard and painful.)
Perhaps you can relate.
Maybe you didn’t meet the “one” in college, but you knew it’d happen one day. Plenty of women are getting married and having kids in their 30s.
You knew you needed a degree to get a job. But you didn’t put much effort into figuring out your dream career in college. Instead, you studied something that you liked but it had minimal real-world application. You didn’t do any internships or find a mentor. Because you knew that one day you’d have to walk away from your career to have kids.
And when you got out of school, job hunting was dismal. You weren’t really interested in the places that would hire you. But you had to do something to pay the bills.
So you took an in-the-meantime job, and you had some not-so-great relationships.
And one by one the years slipped by. You got new jobs and had new relationships.
But the jobs got worse, and so did the relationships. They don’t listen, they don’t support, and they take way more than they give.
You try to deny it, but deep down you know you’re sinking into a depressive loop. Doom scrolling on job boards and dating sites hasn’t worked in the past, yet it is your go-to action when things fall apart.
Do you know what doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result is called?
Yep–INSANITY.
At what point do you say enough is enough? At what point do you stop waiting for marriage and kids and start living your life NOW?
You know I love helping people get amazing, fulfilling careers they love! And I love the moment where people are finally willing to go after the best lives and careers for them NOW. When they stop waiting for the someday crap that may or may not happen.
So I am super excited about talking to Holistic Coach & Philanthropist, Carrie Reinagel. She spent decades chasing marriage and kids. And even started and ran a wellness company for 21 years while she “waited.” She sold her company and is finally ready to create the life and homestead she’s always wanted–by herself and on her terms.
Connect to Carrie
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/carrie.reinagel
Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carriereinagel/
Email: carriereinagel@gmail.com
Connect to Genea:
Website: http://geneabarnes.com/
Free Career Guide: http://elevatefreegift.com/
Book a Call with Genea: http://elevatebookacall.com/
79 episodes
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