29. How to stop people-pleasing and set healthy boundaries in relationships (with Monica Kalra)

The Quiet Warrior Podcast with Serena Low

In this episode, Monica Kalra, International Divorce and Relationship Confidence Coach, shares her experiences growing up in the Indian culture, the intersection between culture, gender, and being a migrant, and the ongoing challenge of navigating traditional vs modern social norms.
Monica’s advice on how to avoid victim mentality when a relationship breaks down:

• Be accountable for the part we played in the relationship
• Take responsibility for our thoughts, actions, decisions instead of blaming others or external circumstances
• Practise gratitude daily
• Volunteering and paying it forward

She also touches on:

• Tapping into your body to ask: what do I need right now?
• How meditation helps us reconnect with our breath and body and be more present
• The importance of the pause between stimulus and response
• The two kinds of journaling that can help: Gratitude & Self-gratitude (recording your wins)
• The importance of protecting and honouring your boundaries in a relationship.
• Why we are afraid to be vulnerable, authentic, and transparent
• Tips for introverted and highly sensitive persons going through a challenging relationship.
• How to rebuild trust in self and others after a relationship breakdown.
• Be consistent in doing the things that show we honour our words - let our actions match our words.
• How to support a family member or friend through a relationship breakdown - listening with empathy, don’t give advice, don’t judge another’s choices.

About Monical Kalra:

Monica Kalra’s mission is empowering women to rebuild their confidence, reclaim their power and thrive in all their relationships.

She is the author of How Do You Know He’s The One? and How To Heal From A Toxic Relationship (To order: https://monicakalracoaching.com/books/)

Find out more about Monica’s work at:

• https://monicakalracoaching.com
• Monica’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/monicakalracoaching/
• Monica’s FB page: https://www.facebook.com/MonicaKalraRelationshipCoach
• Monica’s FB group, Women's Relationship & Divorce Empowerment Circle: https://bit.ly/3FMaN8Y

This episode was edited by Aura House Productions