005: Does Self-Care for Single Parents Exist?
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Welcome to another episode of the Single Mom Stories Podcast! Today I don’t have a guest joining us, but that feels rather fitting considering I will talk about the importance of self-compassion. As single parents, we often feel guilty and frustrated that we don’t have enough time to wash our hair, let alone do something for ourselves. It’s hard to practice self-care when you’re raising children alone. Recently, my therapist suggested that I start doing nice things for myself once a day. I looked at him like he was crazy and I resisted it for a while because I didn’t even know how to do it let alone when I would do it. Listen in to hear how that all transpired and my challenge to you.
I hope you’ll join me. You can do anything from reading a book and taking yourself out to eat to accepting help from someone and buying yourself flowers. I’d love to hear from you if you have more ideas for simple self care practices, so let me know by reaching out on social media or my website. I can’t wait to hear from you!
The Finer Details of This Episode:
- Why self compassion is difficult to achieve
- Learning to let things go
- Why Kelly’s therapist recommended that she do something nice for herself once a day
- Ideas of ways to treat yourself
Quotes:
“It's difficult to have self-compassion. If you're feeling bad about your situation, we’ve got to move forward, right?”
“A lot of us feel like we're doing something wrong, right? What am I doing wrong that I can't have this routine that lasts an hour? Oh, right. I have children running amuck, and I have to take care of them in the morning.”
“I just have to loosen up, I have learned to just let things go. And it doesn't matter how many times I ask them to, you know, put their lunchbox in their backpack and grab their water bottles, somebody inevitably forgets something, is busy doing something else– it doesn't matter.”
“All this is to say if you don't have this beautifully laid out morning routine, you are not alone. And also you need to do what works best for you.”
“I know that when I am running on fumes, and I'm stressed and I'm low on sleep, and not feeling like I've had a minute to myself, I am a nightmare. I am a nightmare, and I don't show up very well in my home. So I need to do better about putting aside time for myself to do little things that bring me joy.”
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