What Masks Do You Wear?: A Hallowe’en Dharma Talk with Dr. Cheryl

Sex, Love & Elephants with Dr. Cheryl

Dr. Cheryl, how can I express my true self?

Why do I feel the need to hide from the world?

How can I work through my anger?

We all play a hundred different roles and contain multitudes, but what are the masks you wear? And who are the goblins, demons, and vampires that plague you?

Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants features a Dharma Talk where I teach about ideas that can feel much spookier than the ghosts and ghouls of Halloween.

What is your shadow self? What are the parts of yourself you don't like to look at? What are the parts of you that are your darker self from trauma, fear, and need? The more we can look at the masks we wear, the more we can examine the costumes we wear, the more we can have moments of grace and less suffering.

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

• We sometimes forget we're a whole conglomeration of shifting roles and personality traits (07:51)
• Where you put your attention, energy goes (24:13)
• We all have inner demons but when we repress or ignore them, they find their way out—usually in destructive ways (35:47)
• Hatred is illusory. Hatred is a state of mind that we can learn to see through and dissolve without taking unwholesome action (46:38)

Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!

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