A Valentine's Day Twist💖

Mindset Mastery with Deirdre Maguire

As Valentine's Day was this week, and in the midst of the heart-shaped chocolates and romantic gestures, remember that the most important relationship is the one you have with yourself 💘

The quality of your life is the quality of your relationships – and that includes your relationship with yourself. Learning to love yourself is essential to your own happiness, to your success in relationships and to the way you interact with the world.

When you exude confidence and joy, you’ll attract others with the same zest for living. This improves the quality of your relationships, which improves your life. The cycle is clear – and it all starts with falling in love with yourself.

But where does self-love come from? And how can you build it?

Self-love comes from truly knowing and accepting yourself. It grows when you recognise your value, embrace your imperfections, and appreciate what makes you unique. It's about being kind to yourself, showing compassion, and understanding that your worth is intrinsic, not dependent on others' approval.

Building self-love is a transformative process that requires intentional effort and self-reflection.

Here are some ways to foster and strengthen self-love:

BE KIND TO YOURSELF (This takes practice !)

It seems simple, but it can be one of the hardest acts to master. We grow up in a society that is always telling us how to look, how to live and even how to feel. If you’re wondering how to love yourself, the first step is to give yourself permission to be human. The way you talk to yourself affects your mood and your behaviour. It’s OK to hold yourself to high standards and to feel negative emotions occasionally, but don’t get stuck in a cycle of negativity. Catch yourself when you fall into negative self-talk and make a conscious effort to change your words into something positive.

SET HEALTHY BOUNDARIES

Setting boundaries is an essential act of self-love. It involves recognising and respecting your emotional and physical limits, creating a space that prioritises your own well-being. By clearly defining your boundaries, you empower yourself to communicate needs, say no when necessary, and invest time and energy in activities that align with your values. It's a powerful affirmation of your worth and a non-negotiable aspect of your self-love journey.

ADJUST YOUR PHYSICAL STATE

Your physical state – your posture, breath and movement – is the key to your emotional state. Start by straightening your spine, drop your shoulders back and raise your head high. SMILE 😊 These actions send signals to your brain that you’re proud and confident. Prioritise daily activities that bring you joy and relaxation. Whether it's walking, going to the gym or taking time for a hobby, self-care rituals contribute to a positive and nurturing relationship with yourself.

SURROUND YOURSELF WITH SUPPORTIVE PEOPLE

It’s true that your most important relationship is with yourself, but that doesn’t mean allowing negativity into your life. Surround yourself with people who truly care about you and think the best of you. Create healthy relationships that bring positivity to your life, and let go of any relationships that aren’t supportive and caring.

MEDITATE

Meditation is one way to not only change your breath – which is part of your physical state – but also to change your entire mindset. Meditation is a powerful tool for cultivating self-love and acceptance. Through regular practice, it fosters mindfulness, gently allowing individuals to explore thoughts and emotions without judgment. This introspection creates an opportunity to transform self-limiting beliefs and negative thought patterns, promoting a compassionate attitude toward oneself.