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In Parashat Matot, Moshe Rabbeinu is commanded by Hashem to avenge the Midyanim for causing Bnei Yisrael to stumble in the most severe sins. Moshe responds by selecting one thousand tzaddikim from each shevet, totaling 12,000 men. He sent them off to war along with Pinchas, the Aron HaKodesh, and the special trumpets used in battle to invoke Hashem's favor and bring victory. The Torah then states: " וַיִּצְבְּאוּ עַל־מִדְיָן " – They encamped against Midyan. Ramban explains that this means the Jewish army surrounded Midyan on three sides, leaving one side open. This was a direct command from Hashem, meant to offer the enemy a chance to flee. Even in war, we are commanded to show mercy. And Ramban adds that this wasn't a one-time instruction—this principle of compassion applies to all future optional wars. Later, the Torah testifies that the Jewish army wiped out Midyan without losing even one soldier. It was openly miraculous. To confront such a large enemy with only 12,000 men and suffer no casualties was clearly the hand of Hashem. This pattern has repeated itself throughout Jewish history. We show compassion to our enemies—and we experience miraculous victories. In a recent conflict, the Israeli Air Force flew nearly 400 warplanes over Iran. Not a single jet malfunctioned. There were no mechanical failures, no planes struck by enemy fire, and not one pilot was injured or captured. Before the operation, Israeli defense officials estimated that between 400 and 800 civilians could be killed in Iranian missile assaults. Some projections feared that if Iran fired all of its 2,000+ ballistic missiles, the death toll could rise to 4,000. In the end, only 687 missiles were fired. Of those, 97% were intercepted. Iran also launched 1,200 drones—99% of which were downed by Israeli defensive systems. According to military experts, these numbers are almost statistically impossible. But when Hashem is protecting us, statistics do not apply. Although we did not merit a completely casualty-free outcome like the war against Midyan, we witnessed an unmistakable miracle. And it wasn't only us who saw it. Even non-Jewish journalists around the world began to acknowledge that something beyond nature is protecting the Jewish people. A British journalist by the last name Heath recently wrote an article exploring the world's irrational hatred for the Jews. He asked: Why does a nation this small inspire so much hostility? In his own words: A nation this small should not be this strong. Surrounded by enemies, condemned in the UN, targeted by terror, boycotted, slandered, and attacked—and yet, the Jewish people thrive in every area: military, medicine, technology, agriculture, security, intelligence, morality, and resilience. They turn desert into farmland. They make water from air. They intercept rockets midair. They rescue hostages from the heart of enemy territory. They survive wars they are supposed to lose—and they win. The world watches and can't explain it. So they grasp for explanations: American aid, high-tech trickery, some hidden secret—anything but the truth. Because the truth means admitting it's Hashem. By all logic, the Jewish people should have disappeared long ago. That's how the story of every exiled, enslaved, and persecuted minority ends. But the Jews didn't disappear. We are stronger than ever. There is no cheat code that can explain how a nation returns to its homeland after 2,000 years. There is no rational explanation for how a people go from gas chambers to global influence. There is no historical precedent for surviving the Babylonians, Romans, Crusaders, Inquisitions, Pogroms, and Holocaust—and still standing strong today. Israel doesn't make sense—unless you believe in something higher. And that's what drives the world crazy. Maybe history isn't random. Maybe evil doesn't have the last word. Maybe the Jewish people aren't just a nation—but a living proof that there is a G-d in the world. Once a person admits that Israel's survival is divine, his entire moral compass has to reset. Because then he is not watching the final chapter of a fallen people, but rather the unfolding of something eternal. So the world tries to deny it—but it is becoming more and more obvious. We are incredibly fortunate to be the Am Hashem. We must appreciate that privilege and honor it by living as true representatives of Hashem—through our Torah and our mitzvot.. Shabbat Shalom.…
Today's Dedication: יהונתן אשר יהודה בן מיכל שהמשפט כנגדו יתבטל לגמרי בקרוב מאוד The Atzei Chaim , a peirush on Chumash from the 1600s, writes a powerful explanation on the words "Vaya'amen ha'am" in Parashat Beshalach, which describe how the Jewish people believed that Hashem would take them out of Mitzrayim. He brings the Chazal: " אין ישראל ניזונין אלא בזכות האמונה " — The Jewish people are sustained only in the merit of emunah. He explains: as we know, the full reward for mitzvot is given in the next world. So how are we sustained in this world? It is through the reward we receive for our emunah , which is so powerful and precious that Hashem rewards it even in Olam HaZeh. Emunah gives a person a special zechut that can help them in their time of need. A man recently told the following story. His wife was pregnant, in her ninth month, and the baby was in a breech position. Due to her medical condition, a C-section was not a safe option, so they went to the hospital hoping the doctors could manually turn the baby. But when the doctors examined her, they were alarmed. Not only was the baby completely turned the wrong way, but the umbilical cord was wrapped around the baby's neck. Turning the baby now would be extremely risky, perhaps even impossible. The woman calmly asked everyone—including her husband—to leave the room. "I need to speak to Hashem," she said. This woman lived with genuine emunah. Ten minutes later, the doctor returned to try again. Amazingly, the baby had turned entirely on its own, in perfect position. The cord was no longer wrapped, and the doctor didn't have to do anything at all. When labor began, the birth was so easy and smooth that she didn't even have to push. Afterward, people asked her what she did during those ten minutes. All she said was: "I just had emunah in the One who runs everything." She refused to elaborate any further. A young man—we'll call him Reuven—was finishing his year of learning in yeshivah in Eretz Yisrael and preparing to fly back to America. He and four friends arranged for a driver to take them to the airport. But the driver arrived 45 minutes late. Then, as they left the city, they hit heavy traffic due to a major accident. Reuven, who had been learning about emunah for several years, calmly told his friends: "Hashem runs the world. If He wants us to make the flight, we'll make it. And if not, then it wasn't meant to be. Either way, we're in His hands. There's no reason to be upset." But the others didn't pay much attention. They began to argue—blaming the driver, the schedule, and each other. Every few minutes, more "what ifs" and frustrated comments filled the car. Reuven, though he appeared calm, admitted that he was also anxious inside. To strengthen himself, he called a Hashgachah Pratit hotline for chizuk. He invited his friends to listen, but they were too stressed. Eventually, the traffic cleared. They arrived at the airport exactly one hour and five minutes before their flight—the very last possible moment. Then came the security questions. For some reason, the officials delayed the others but let Reuven through quickly. He ran to the check-in counter. The clerk was visibly upset. "If you're not at the gate in 20 minutes," she said sharply, "you're staying in Israel." Reuven ran toward the gate, but when he reached the final security checkpoint, he was met with an enormous line. There was absolutely no way to get through in time. Reuven took a breath and reminded himself: Hashem is running everything. As he calmed himself, a member of the airport ground crew happened to notice him looking overwhelmed. He looked at Reuven's boarding pass and, without being asked, escorted him to the front of the entire line. Within two minutes, Reuven was through. But the challenge wasn't over yet. At passport control, Reuven scanned his passport at the automatic gate—but the doors didn't open. He tried again. And again. Seven times in total—but nothing. There was a manual line, but it was long. If he had to wait there, he would definitely miss the flight. Reuven turned to Hashem and whispered, "Please help me. Let the gate open." He scanned it one more time. The gate opened. By the time he reached the boarding gate, he was the only one from his group who made it. None of his friends made the flight. Despite every delay and every obstacle, Hashem carried him through. The zechut of his emunah had paved the way. Emunah is so powerful that it brings blessing not only in the next world, but in this one as well. It strengthens us when we're weak, carries us when we're stuck, and opens doors that simply shouldn't open. As the Atzei Chaim wrote, אין ישראל ניזונין אלא בזכות האמונה — the Jewish people are sustained in the merit of their Emunah..…
A person struggling with parnasah wakes up each morning hoping that today will be different—that this will be the day when everything turns around. He puts in a full day's work, makes phone calls, attends meetings, and develops new strategies. He pushes himself to his limits—but the income still doesn't come. The bills pile up, each one adding more weight to his already heavy heart. And in quiet moments, he wonders: Is Hashem seeing how much I'm struggling? He opens his siddur and begins to pray, like a child pleading with his father: "I'm doing everything I can. Please help me. Please give me parnasah ." One thing is certain: Hashem—and only Hashem—determines how much parnasah a person will receive. If someone has prayed with all his heart and has not yet seen the results, this does not mean he should give up on his spiritual efforts. On the contrary— if anything will help, it is his tefillah and good deeds. Hashem has countless reasons why a person may need to experience a period of financial challenge. But the moment Hashem decides that it should come to an end, it will end— and not because of any extra physical hishtadlut . A person must learn to both accept and hope. Accept that everything that has happened until this moment was for his absolute best, and hope that going forward, Hashem will provide more. When Hashem wants someone to receive parnasah , He knows exactly how to find him, and He knows exactly how to give it to him. A man told me that when he first came to America, he didn't even speak English. He struggled terribly for three years trying to earn a living, and was having a very hard time. Eventually, he decided to enter the diamond and jewelry trade. He began traveling abroad—one week away, one week at home. That was the nature of the business at the time. He always made sure to return by Friday so he could be home for Shabbat. But once, while abroad, he got sick. A local doctor told him he was too sick to fly, and he was forced to remain there for Shabbat. On Friday morning, he went down to the hotel lobby, hoping to find some fruit—perhaps apples or bananas—for Shabbat. While he was there, another Jew recognized him and asked, "Would you like to come up to my room to see some merchandise? Maybe there's something you'd like to sell." The man was weak and just wanted to return to bed. But the other fellow insisted. "It'll only take a few minutes," he said. So he went upstairs. The man showed him a new style of diamond and said, "Take it. If you sell it, you'll pay me. If not, just give it back." That Sunday, he felt completely better and flew home. On Monday, he showed the diamond to one of his regular customers. The customer was so impressed with the stone that he immediately placed an order for forty of them. This led to a partnership between the two men in the design and production of that diamond—and from that one meeting, he eventually became a multi-millionaire. "Hashem wanted to make me wealthy," he told me. "I barely spoke English, and there weren't many trades I could have gone into. Hashem made me sick just so I would be stuck in that hotel on that Friday and meet the person who was literally holding my future in his room." I read a story about a man who owned a small grocery store. He worked long hours and barely made enough to get by. After years of trying, the business failed and he lost nearly everything. But instead of falling into despair, he accepted Hashem's will with love. He decided to spend more time learning Torah and took a job working in a local yeshivah kitchen, earning just enough to cover his basic expenses. One day, someone approached him. "I always admired your honesty when you ran the grocery store," he said. "I'm looking for someone I can trust to handle the logistics of my real estate operations." That simple conversation turned into a partnership—and within a few years, the man who had once been struggling to make ends meet became a millionaire. When the time came for his financial hardship to end, Hashem knew exactly where to find him and what opportunity to send his way. All success in parnasah comes only from Hashem. He is the only address to turn to for help. And our greatest tools to draw parnasah down from Heaven are tefillah and mitzvos . The person who continues to serve Hashem faithfully, even during times of struggle, will one day see how every step was part of Hashem's perfect plan.…
A rabbi from Israel, who describes himself as someone with deep emunah, shared a powerful personal experience in which that very emunah was severely tested. Part of this rabbi's life's work involves printing rare and precious Torah manuscripts authored by great rabbis of previous generations. Years ago, he was working on a manuscript by a certain Rabbi Laniado, who had an exceptionally accurate version of Rashi's commentary. During his research, the rabbi discovered that a location in Italy claimed to possess the most accurate text of Rashi in the world—a manuscript dated just eighteen years after Rashi's passing. Determined to see it, he arranged a trip to Italy, though he didn't know anyone there and assumed access to the manuscript would be difficult. After making a few calls, he managed to get in touch with someone involved with the collection, who said he would do his best to help. He also found a local contact willing to pick him up from the central bus station and drive him to the various sites. With these arrangements in place, the rabbi booked a flight and packed his attaché case with fifteen years' worth of research, along with his laptop computer. Upon arriving, he called the man who was supposed to meet him—only to be told that the man had completely forgotten and was currently three hours away. The man gave him directions to his house and said he would meet him there later. He warned the rabbi to be extremely careful in the train station, as there were professional thieves in the area who could easily steal his belongings if he wasn't vigilant. The rabbi cautiously proceeded down the steps toward the train. But moments later, he realized his attaché case was gone. He panicked. He began running through the station, frantically searching. He had been so careful, yet his most precious items—his research, documents, and computer—had somehow been stolen. After searching in vain, he sat down and broke into tears. That case held over fifteen years of Torah work, valued at well over a quarter of a million dollars. And just like that, it was gone. Even in the pain, he accepted that this too must be from Hashem. But he turned to Hashem and pleaded, "I accept this wholeheartedly—just please, let me see the good in it." He continued on to the man's house, though he felt there wasn't much point anymore. Still, he decided to make the most of it and try to explore whatever manuscripts he could. Word quickly spread about the theft of the rabbi's manuscripts. The very next day, the man hosting him received a phone call from someone urgently requesting a meeting. They went to meet him—and to their astonishment, he was holding what appeared to be all the stolen manuscripts. The man explained that he had been browsing in a pawn shop when he saw a collection of manuscripts being sold at a suspiciously low price. He guessed that these must have been stolen and bought them all on the spot. The rabbi looked through the documents. Everything was there, completely intact—except for his laptop computer. This was an unbelievable Yeshua. Locals said that in the past thirty years, they had never heard of anyone recovering their stolen belongings after a robbery in that area. The rabbi's story quickly became well-known. Suddenly, doors began opening for him. He was granted full access to any manuscript he wished to see. Wealthy Italian philanthropists, inspired by his story, began donating generously to his work. In fact, the rabbi told me that a large portion of his support until today still comes from those very individuals in Italy. What he had originally seen as a disaster—losing his most valuable Torah manuscripts—turned out to be the greatest blessing. It connected him with the very people and resources he needed most, in a way he never could have arranged on his own. He had thought that losing those manuscripts could not possibly be good. But Hashem showed him otherwise. With a full heart, he thanked Hashem for the heavenly help and for orchestrating such a miraculous turn of events. Everything that happens is always for the best—even when we cannot begin to imagine how. We must be patient and trust in Hashem.…
There's a well-known statement from Rav Nachman Mibreslev: Ein ye'ush ba'olam kelal — that a person is never allowed to give up hope on anything. This statement is often used to give c hizuk to people who have been trying for years to achieve a certain goal, but haven't achieved it yet. They are told never to give up, because Hashem can always bring the salvation in the blink of an eye. To Him, it does not matter that years have passed without success. When the time is right, He will bring the salvation. This gives c hizuk to people to continue trying to find their zivug . Shidduchim can be one of the most emotionally draining areas in a person's life. The waiting, the disappointment, the confusion, the pressure — it can feel endless. A person may say, I've been trying for so many years and nothing is working. Maybe it's just not meant for me. Maybe I should just stop trying. Or a person may be trying to raise a family of good children who will be yirei Hashem , but it seems like he's failing. The children are disrespectful. They don't want to do anything their parents tell them to do. They aren't interested in growing spiritually. The parents have done everything they could, but they are getting absolutely nowhere. It's very normal to feel, what's the point? Why should I bother continuing to try if I'm not getting anywhere anyway? This applies in so many other areas of life as well. And usually, the c hizuk given is: things can always change in an instant. And therefore, we should never give up trying. However, there is a deeper understanding of these words, which was brought out by Rabbi Menashe Reizman. We do not continue trying just because we can be saved at any moment. We continue trying because that is the job that Hashem requires us to do . We are all workers in Hashem's world. Giving up is a decision that is made by a boss, not a worker. Hashem gave every person the exact life that he needs to fulfill his mission here. That mission entails doing what is right in Hashem's eyes — regardless of whether it is successful or not. How the final product looks is also the boss's department, not the worker's. Imagine there's a large factory with hundreds of thousands of products being produced daily. And there are tens of thousands of workers, each having a small part in the creation of the product. One person bangs in a nail. Another adds a screw. One puts on the plastic wrapping. Another puts the price sticker. It should not matter at all to any of those workers what the final product looks like. That has nothing to do with their job. As long as they are doing what they are supposed to do, they are successful in their mission. We must internalize that we are all workers in Hashem's world, and we will be considered successful as long as we continue working. The final product is Hashem's business. If a shidduch happens — that is up to Hashem. But as far as we are concerned, we are supposed to continue trying and trying and trying again. Whether or not children will listen to their parents or be religious is Hashem's business. But as far as we are concerned, our job is to always be the parent that Hashem wants us to be. Hashem put each child exactly with the parent that He wants to raise that child. He chose the parent — with his personality, with his strengths and weaknesses — because that is the parent that the child needs in order to do his job. And the parents get the exact children that they need to do their job. It is very gratifying when we end up getting what we want or when we see the fruits of our labor. But that is just an added bonus. It is not the reason we continue trying. We do everything in this world for the Boss — and the Boss wants us to work, and never give up. Ein ye'ush ba'olam kelal.…
In the beginning of this week's parasha , Pinchas, we read about the great rewards Pinchas received for doing the will of Hashem under very difficult circumstances. The Midrash at the end of parashat Balak asks how could it be that Moshe Rabbenu forgot the halacha of what was supposed to be done with Zimri and Kozbi? Thr Midrash answered, it was מן השמים, in order to give Pinchas the ability to get what Hashem wanted to give him. Although when we read the pesukim it seems like everything happened in the natural course of events, in actuality, it was Hashem pulling the strings. Now was Pinchas's time and if, in order for that to happen, the greatest Rabbi in history needed to forget a halacha , then that's what was going to happen. But it goes even further. Every person's tests and opportunities for growth have already been mapped out for them way before they were even born. Hashem knows what each person needs to fulfill his mission and He sets each person up with the tests that they need to accomplish that mission. The Vilna Gaon writes, Bilaam was being tested by Hashem to see if he would go to curse the Jews against His will. Hashem sent him many obstacles to give him help with that test and he failed each time. That story, as well, seemed very natural. The nation of Moav became afraid of the Jews after they conquered Sichon and Og, and so they hired someone who seemed capable of cursing them to remove the threat. Chazal tell us, one of the things Hashem created on the sixth day of Creation during bein hashemashot was the פי האתון – the mouth of the donkey who tried to dissuade Bilaam from continuing on. This means, already from the beginning of time, Hashem was preparing the tests that Bilaam needed to go through. Korach was tested when he didn't receive the position he wanted. His job was to say, "It's מן השמים ," and accept it. But instead, he made a revolt against Moshe and Aharon. There as well, everything seemed very natural, but Chazal tell us, the spot of the earth which swallowed up the eida of Korach was created already on bein hashemashot during the six days of Creation. At that time, when Hashem was creating the world, He was already preparing the necessary components for the test he was going to give Korach thousands of years later. Avraham Avinu's tenth test of Akedat Yitzchak , which we are still benefiting from today, did not just happen at that time. That ram that he slaughtered instead of Yitzchak was created during the six days of Creation. Already from then, Hashem was planning out every single nisayon that Avraham would need to go through. And the same is true of every single individual. Sometimes we find ourselves in situations we don't want to be in and we start trying to figure out how we got there. Our job is not to backtrack and see how we could have avoided it. Our job is to do what Hashem wants us to do in that very situation. Every circumstance we find ourselves in had been carefully planned out for us to achieve our purpose here. What may seem to be a bunch of natural happenings is nothing other than the yad Hashem. In life, we need to pass each test as it comes. We don't know how much is riding on each one of them. The next test could be what we need that will make us zocheh to the beracha that we have been seeking. Every one is necessary for us to pass and b'ezrat Hashem, if we do, then we will be fulfilling the purpose of our creation. Shabbat Shalom.…
Parnassah is from Shamayim. The pasuk says, Birkat Hashem hee ta'ashir — it is the blessing of Hashem that gives a person his wealth. We are taught by the society around us that the more hours we work, the more money we'll make. But it's not true. Rather, the more blessing we have from Hashem, the more money we'll make. Yes, we have to make a reasonable hishtadlut, but we must never forget that our main purpose in this world is avodat Hashem , which includes learning Torah, praying with a minyan , doing mitzvot, doing chesed for others, and having enough time for our families. A person who knows his purpose will wake up early, go to shul to learn and pray, make an honest hishtadlut to earn parnassah, and then come home with joy, show his wife a happy face, sit with his children, and then go back out to learn more at night. The greatest way to get blessing from Hashem is to follow His will. A person can do a minimal hishtadlut and earn a lot, and another can do a lot of hishtadlut and earn a little. The parnassah does not depend on the hishtadlut. It depends only on Hashem. A man from Israel said he learns the entire morning in a kollel , and runs a small grocery store in the afternoon. With a lot of heavenly help, this is enough to support his family. During a nationwide shortage of milk, his store was suffering. People would ask if he had milk, worried about their own supply, but he never had enough. Another store owner told him that every morning he travels to a big supermarket in another neighborhood, buys a bunch of milk bags, and sells them at no profit in his store, just so that he has milk for his customers. Several other grocery store owners gave him the same advice. They said, if you want to keep your customers, you must have enough milk for them. He was thinking about following their advice, but that would mean he would miss most of his morning kollel . So he decided he didn't want to miss, but he would still make a hishtadlut. He called the dairy company to make an order. They didn't answer. But a few hours later, after their office was already closed, they called him back, saying they just got in a shipment of 50 bags of milk, and saw his number on the screen, and decided to give it to him. The next day, an even greater surprise occurred — the supplier, on his own initiative, delivered 150 more bags of milk to his store. His customers were extremely happy, and he didn't even have to miss one minute of learning. This is a blessing from Hashem. Another man told me he received a completely unexpected phone call recently on a Sunday, from a supplier in Brazil. They said his order was ready early, and if he wanted to pay for half of it up front, they would ship the goods the very next day. Although he didn't need the merchandise so early, for some reason, he decided to say yes. Three days later, there was an announcement that Brazil was going to be hit with a 50% tariff. This order was this man's biggest order he ever had. Now it is going to arrive before the tariff goes into effect. If it would have shipped at the time it was supposed to, it would have come after the tariff would start. Instead of making the most profit he ever made, he would have been stuck with merchandise that his customer would no longer want. In all of his years in business, his goods were never ready early, and he never got a phone call from a supplier on a Sunday. Hashem, who is in charge of his parnassah, said he would make money, and He pulled the strings to make this happen. The man also told me that a friend of his sells cheap sweatshirts with hoods — no different than the millions of others that are already out there in the market. But for some inexplicable reason, someone put his sweatshirt on a very popular platform, and all of a sudden, everyone wants his. There is no rhyme or reason. It is because Hashem decided to bless him, and that is how He did it. Our main job is avodat Hashem , and let us leave Hashem in charge of parnassah.…
The pasuk in Kohelet says: " עֵת לָלֶדֶת וְעֵת לָמוּת " — "A time to be born, and a time to die." (Kohelet 3:2). The Midrash in Kohelet Rabbah teaches that from the moment a person is born, Hashem determines exactly how long that person will live. Every breath, every second, is measured. And it is considered a great merit for someone to live out every single moment of their allotted time in this world. We cannot begin to grasp the infinite value of just one second of life. Sometimes, patients who are suffering deeply may wish to pass on rather than continue living in pain, connected to machines. Their families, too, may struggle watching them suffer. These situations are deeply painful and emotionally charged—but they are also halachically complex, and a competent Rav must always be consulted. These are not decisions anyone should take into their own hands. Halachah teaches us that we desecrate Shabbat to extend the life of a patient even in a vegetable state, even if it's just for one more second. That is how precious life is in Hashem's eyes. Rabbi Aryeh Levin once visited a man who was suffering terribly in the hospital. The man asked the rabbi, "Why should I continue living like this? I can't pray, I can't learn. I'm just in pain." Rabbi Levin gently took his hand and answered, "Who knows? Perhaps one word of Shema said in pain is worth more than a lifetime of mitzvot done in comfort. Every breath you take now—with emunah—brings Hashem so much nachat." The man began to cry. From that moment on, he accepted each breath with emunah and gratitude. He passed away just a few days later—peaceful, uplifted, and surrounded by meaning. Chazal say: "Sha'ah achat shel teshuvah u'maasim tovim ba'olam hazeh yafeh mikol chayei ha'olam haba"—one hour of repentance and good deeds in this world is greater than all of the World to Come. In just one moment, a person can elevate himself spiritually forever. The Gemara in Avodah Zarah shares three separate stories of individuals who earned their entire portion in the World to Come in one moment of their life. When Rabbi Yehuda HaNasi heard them, he wept, recognizing the unimaginable power of even a single second. The Sifrei Kodesh teach that even one thought of teshuvah can have massive spiritual effects. Even a person on his deathbed, who cannot speak or move, can—through one pure thought, one yearning for Hashem—accomplish more than all the angels in Heaven combined. If all a person can do is breathe, that breath is a treasure beyond comprehension. As long as someone is breathing, Hashem wants him alive. His mission in this world is not yet complete. A man shared with me that his father, Eddie, recently passed away. He had told his children that if he reached the end of life, he didn't want to be kept alive artificially and in pain. But when the time came, his children called Chayim Aruchim, an organization that helps families navigate end-of-life issues according to halachah. They were given a personal Rav who was an expert in this field. He came down to the hospital and explained the halachic importance—and the spiritual benefit to Eddie and his family—of staying connected to the machine, even for a short time. The Rav monitored his condition every day for ten days, ensuring halachah was followed precisely. Eventually, the doctors said Eddie's final moments had come. His children gathered around his bed and watched their father take his last breaths. They were so grateful they had consulted daat Torah and allowed their father to live every moment Hashem had intended for him. And then, just as they left the hospital, a truck drove by with the word "Eddie's" written in big letters—something they had never seen before. To them, it felt like a wink from Hashem, a small smile from Above, affirming that they had done the right thing. Every second of life is a priceless gift. In one moment, a person can earn eternity. And sometimes, the last breath we breathe with emunah is something that brings the greatest glory to Hashem.…
The chiddushim of Rav Aaron Leib Steinman on the topic of Shidduchim were recorded in the sefer Ke'ayal Ta'arog , compiled by his students. There, Rav Steinman is quoted as saying that in our times, when we are faced with decisions about Shidduchim, we often forget the most basic principle: Shiviti Hashem l'negdi tamid —I place Hashem before me always. The question should be, "What does Hashem want me to do in this situation?" Too often, a person focuses on what they will gain from a match, rather than what Hashem's will might be for them. And this, Rav Steinman said, is one of the central challenges people face today in Shidduchim. When people hear about a potential match, do they ask themselves, "What would Hashem want me to say?" Or do they worry, "What will others think?" Concerns arise: "Is the family on the same status level as mine?" "Do they have as much money?" "Have their other children married important people?" Rav Steinman explained that when someone thinks, "How can I say yes—what will others think if they see us together?" That is a sign of too much ga'ava —pride. And that, he taught, is part of what it means when Chazal say that Shidduchim are as difficult as Kriyat Yam Suf , the splitting of the sea. A person's middot can block them from finding their intended match. Rav Chaim Volozhiner also emphasized this point. He said that it is forbidden to have ga'ava when it comes to Shidduchim. The only question one should ask is whether the other person will be good for them based on their middot and their yirat Shamayim . There is nothing wrong with a boy marrying a girl older than him. There is nothing wrong with a wealthy family marrying into a family of lesser means. And there is certainly nothing wrong with a Jew from one background marrying a Jew from another background. A woman recently told me a story that illustrates this point. Her daughter became a kallah at the age of 29. For years, her family prayed, tried all sorts of kabbalot , and did everything they could to find her match. But year after year passed, and the process only became more difficult. One day, her mother had to deliver something to a home in another neighborhood. When she knocked on the door, a young man—around 30 years old—answered. He was kind, soft-spoken, and showed beautiful middot. The mother took note and, upon returning home, called a shadchan to inquire about him for her daughter. Everything sounded wonderful—except for one detail: he was Chassidish , while their family was Litvish . The cultural differences felt too wide, and so she declined the match. But word got back to the boy's family that someone had inquired about him. Curious, they looked into the girl and were very impressed. They asked their own shadchan to follow up and try to arrange a meeting. But again, the girl's mother declined. Later that year, the name came up once more. This time, the daughter said she was open to trying. They went out—and found that they were extremely compatible. Baruch Hashem , they got engaged. Yes, there will be differences. Where she comes from, men wear black hats. Her chatan is going to wear a shtreimel . Her community dresses in short jackets; he is going to wear a long bekeshe . There will be differences in dress, possibly in language, and even in food. But they share the same values and the same dedication to Torah and middot. Together, B'ezrat Hashem they will build a beautiful Jewish home. What other people say does not matter. Last names do not matter. The only thing that truly matters is: What does Hashem want us to do!…
For a 10% discount on Rabbi David Ashear's new book LIVING EMUNAH VOL 8 click the link below https://www.artscroll.com/Books/9781422644645.html The Chafetz Chaim writes that in the entire narrative of Bilam attempting to curse the Jewish people, there are no paragraph breaks—no פ or ס —in the Torah. This is because the danger was so severe, the Torah did not want to pause until the threat had passed. Balak and Bilam stood on a mountaintop with the potential to cause immense destruction, and meanwhile, the Jewish people were completely unaware of the danger surrounding them. But Hashem, as always, the שומר ישראל , was watching over His nation. He did not allow any harm to come to us. From the words Hashem placed in the donkey's mouth, and later in Bilam's own mouth, we see what Hashem found so impressive about Am Yisrael. The donkey referred to the שלש רגלים , and Rashi explains that Hashem was saying to Bilam: this is a nation that travels three times a year to Yerushalayim for the שלש רגלים —you will not be able to harm them. The Jewish people would leave their homes and land open and vulnerable, trusting completely in Hashem's promise that no one would invade while they were away celebrating at the Beit HaMikdash. That kind of אמונה is a shield no curse can penetrate. Bilam then says: מי מנה עפר יעקב How many mitzvot do the Jewish people perform even with the simple dust of the earth? מה טובו אהליך יעקב משכנותיך ישראל How beautiful are our shuls and batei midrash, filled with Jews praying and learning. עם כלביא יקום We are a nation that rises like a lion in the morning to grab mitzvot(Tzitzit, Tefillin, and Shema) with passion and strength. We didn't even know the danger we were in, and therefore we couldn't pray to Hashem to save us. But Hashem, who loves us infinitely, provides us with constant opportunities to earn זכויות , which He uses to protect us exactly when we need them most. As Rabbi Chananya ben Akashya teaches: רצה הקדוש ברוך הוא לזכות את ישראל, לפיכך הרבה להם תורה ומצוות Hashem wanted to give us many merits, so He gave us many mitzvot. The pasuk says: לב מלך ביד ה׳ It is no coincidence that the recent war was named " עם כלביא יקום ." Those very words came from Hashem's mouth through Bilam and now once again through the Prime Minister. They describe a nation full of spiritual power, rising early to do mitzvot—and that is our true strength. Despite the immense danger we faced—those missiles had the potential to kill thousands—Hashem once again, the שומר ישראל , stood guard over His people. Since the horrors of October 7th, we have witnessed an awakening across Am Yisrael. So many people who didn't even know the words " שמע ישראל " are now full ba'alei emunah , looking to grow in Torah and mitzvot. This renewed devotion gives us tremendous זכות , and it makes Hashem so proud of His people. We've seen the downfall of our enemies this year. We know that we are in the end of days and we await the גאולה שלמה . But we are not there yet. We are still in galut, and we are still without the Beit HaMikdash. Now begins the period of בין המצרים , the three weeks between שבעה עשר בתמוז and תשעה באב . We pray that this year תשעה באב will be a day of joy and celebration, but there is still work to be done. The pasuk says: וישא בלעם את עיניו וירא את ישראל שוכן לשבטיו ותהי עליו רוח אלוקים Bilam wanted to recall the sins of the Jewish people, such as the חטא העגל , to bring about their destruction. But what he saw instead was unity—Israel dwelling peacefully, each tribe in its proper place—and that unity brought down the שכינה , causing Hashem to transform his curses into blessings. The Midrash teaches that even if we, Heaven forbid, engage in עבודה זרה , as long as there is peace among us, no harm will befall us. That is the power of unity. Now more than ever, it is incumbent upon us to repair divisions. This is the time of year to go above and beyond to make peace, to apologize, to be more tolerant, and to bring love and unity to Am Yisrael. May these days of mourning soon be transformed into days of rejoicing. אמן .…
For a 10% discount on Rabbi David Ashear's new book LIVING EMUNAH VOL 8 click the link below https://www.artscroll.com/Books/9781422644645.html The pasuk says at the beginning of this week's parasha that Balak saw all that Yisrael did to the Emorim and he became afraid. Rav Moshe Sternbuch asked, why did Balak become afraid specifically from the Jew beating the Emorim ? They had done much greater things before this which should have caused Balak to become afraid of them, like obliterating the Mitzrim or Kriyat Yam Suf . The Rabbi quoted from the Kli Yakar who answered, what Yirsrael did to the Emorim is referring to a different episode, namely when Yaakov Avinu, whose name is also Yisrael, defeated the Emorim with his tefilot back in parashat Vayechi , before Yetziat Mitzrayim . Balak said to himself, if the Jews can take down an entire nation using their prayers, how are we going to stand up to them? This is why he hired Bilaam, who also had powers with his mouth. Later on in the parasha , when Bilaam blessed the Jewish People, he was in awe of how they wake up every morning like lions to grab mitzvot , putting on tallit and tefillin and reciting keriyat shema . These are our greatest treasures. The more we use the power of our mouths for good, the more blessing will come down from Hashem. Rabbi Elimelech Biderman related a story that a rabbi from New York told him. The rabbi said this past year around Hanukah time, he read an amazing story about an older boy who was having a lot of difficulty finding his zivug. Baruch Hashem, this year, that boy got engaged on Thursday night, the 11 th of Kislev. At his engagement, his younger ten year old brother showed him a piece of paper which had written on it, Today the 21 st of Cheshvan, year 5781, Saturday night, I, so and so, accept upon myself to say kriyat shema looking inside the siddur and having kavana in each word in the merit that my brother gets engaged by the 11 th of Kislev . And that's exactly what happened. He said shema every night the way he's supposed to and his brother got engaged on the 11 th of Kislev. The rabbi in New York got so excited after reading this story, he related it to his own family at the Shabbat table that week. He also had an older son not married and he also has a ten year old son. When his ten year old heard that story, he accepted upon himself on Rosh Chodesh Shevat the same kabbala . He wrote on a piece of paper, For 30 days, I will say kriyat shema al hamita from a siddur the right way in the zechut that my brother gets engaged. On the 30 th night, that young boy fell asleep without saying shema . The next morning, when he realized what happened, he started to cry. He told his father that he took on this kabbala and did it for 29 days in a row but then missed it last night. His father told him not to worry, it didn't hurt his kabbala . He said, "You accepted 30 days and you did 29 of them." The father then told his son to do the last day that night and it will still count. Amazingly, the very next day, on the 2 nd of Adar, 31 days from the time this boy made his kabbala , which was also the day he finished his 30 days, his brother got engaged. We have tremendous powers with our mouths. We can say kind words to others, we can read Tehillim , we can learn Torah, we can pray to Hashem. These are our strengths. This is what Balak feared, and this is what Bilaam knew was our secret. Let us utilize these precious gifts that Hashem gave us and do them all the right way.…
For a 10% discount on Rabbi David Ashear's new book LIVING EMUNAH VOL 8 click the link below https://www.artscroll.com/Books/9781422644645.html Many people say, "If only I had a lot of money, I would help so many people. I would support yeshivot, fund chesed organizations, and provide for families in need." It's a beautiful sentiment that reflects a generous and noble heart. But often, this thought remains just that—a distant dream. In reality, a person does not need a lot of money to become a true baal tzedakah . If someone has a genuine desire to give, Hashem can open doors and make that desire a reality. A young mother raising several little children had no income. She noticed that many families in her building lacked toys, games, and books for their children. She sent a simple voice note to a group chat asking if anyone had toys in good condition to donate. Within a week, her hallway was filled with donations. She organized them into bins, labeled them, and opened her apartment one day a week for mothers to come and take toys for their children. No budget, no money—just heart and effort. Another young woman noticed that many families in her neighborhood were struggling to afford clothing for Yom Tov. Instead of just feeling bad, she decided to act. She received permission to use a high school gym on a Sunday, made flyers requesting donations of clean, gently used clothing, and organized volunteers to sort and set up. Families came to shop with dignity—free of charge. One man shared how Hashem gave him extraordinary siyata dishmaya to help people in large proportions. A few years ago, he was a bank clerk heading home when he noticed a flyer requesting furniture for a newly established beit midrash . They were seeking tables, chairs, and bookshelves and would appreciate any donation. He didn't think there was any way he could help, but he felt a strong desire to be involved. He tore off one of the tabs at the bottom with the contact number. The very next day, he arrived at work to find a carpenter dismantling his desk. The branch had just opened a month earlier and was furnished with upscale, elegant furniture. But management had decided it was too fancy and were replacing everything. The carpenter turned to him and asked, "Do you know anyone who might want this?" Suddenly, he remembered the flyer. He called the rabbi of the beit midrash and told him there was a huge amount of high-quality furniture available. They arranged a truck and were stunned by the quantity and beauty of the furniture. The beit midrash was now elegantly furnished, and the man was thrilled to have played a role in beautifying a house of Hashem. But that was only the beginning. His name was added to a list in the bank's construction department as someone who knew people and institutions that could use furniture. Just days later, the architect from another department called him: they were closing an entire floor in a Tel Aviv branch and needed someone to take the furniture. He didn't yet know who needed it—but he knew what to do. He called one yeshiva, then another. Two large trucks were dispatched to one yeshiva, and two more to another. Weeks later, another branch in Yerushalayim was closing, and again he arranged for the furniture to go to two more yeshivot. Over time, his number became well known. He helped dozens of institutions and families. Once, a yeshiva contacted him asking for 500 pieces of furniture. He had never dealt with such a quantity before but said he would try. Less than two months later, a carpenter from the bank called him—they were closing two large branches in Netanya and had 500 units of furniture available. He was able to fully furnish one of the larger yeshivot in the country. This man does not have wealth. But his yearning to give made him a shaliach to provide hundreds of thousands of dollars' worth of furniture to yeshivot and organizations across the country. Everyone has what they need to be successful in avodat Hashem . The more we yearn to do good, the more siyata dishmaya we receive.…
A young man was diagnosed with leukemia, Lo Aleinu. Baruch Hashem, he is now responding well to treatment. One day, his rabbi noticed that he was praying the Amidah with deep concentration and asked what inspired such intense kavanah. The young man replied that his doctor had recently explained to him how cancer begins. He said, "If even one single cell in the body mutates and begins to do the wrong thing, and then multiplies, it can become cancer." The young man continued, "I learned that the human body has more than 37 trillion cells, and all it takes is for just one to go off track." This struck him deeply. He began to think about the 37 trillion cells in his body that were doing exactly what they were supposed to, every moment. He realized how much he owed Hashem and felt an urge to say thank you for each and every one. So he did the math: if he wanted to say thank you for each cell, and it took just two seconds per "thank you" with real kavanah, and he did it nonstop 24 hours a day, how long would it take? His calculation came out to nearly 2.5 million years . That's what inspired him to say the Amidah with more heart and awareness—because he realized how Hashem is sustaining him with countless daily miracles. Each microscopic cell in our body is like a miniature city, with roads, factories, and workers. Cells contain tiny "machines" that produce energy, repair damage, send signals, and make proteins. Red blood cells deliver oxygen to every part of the body, completing a round trip in just one minute. There are about 25 trillion red blood cells alone. The cells send chemical messages to each other that instruct them to grow, heal, or repair. The brain, meanwhile, has 86 billion neurons firing electrical signals at lightning speed. Inside each cell lies a copy of a person's DNA, a blueprint so compact that if stretched out, it would measure six feet long—but it's packed inside something invisible to the eye. Even as we sleep, these trillions of cells continue to work— repairing damage, rebuilding muscles, cleaning waste and growing new tissues. —without pause. We could never fully thank Hashem for all He does for us. But we do get an opportunity each time we say "Asher Yatzar" to acknowledge and appreciate the intricate wonders of our body. We conclude that berachah by saying: רופא כל בשר ומפליא לעשות — "Healer of all flesh and Performer of wonders." Those wonders include our immune system, our blood cells, our nerve cells, our brain cells, our skin, our organs—and everything else that keeps functioning perfectly without our even noticing. Rebbetzin Silverstein recently shared a remarkable story. A mother had a child who could not control his bladder or bowels, and because of it, he was unable to attend school. Doctors could not help, and the parents were devastated. Then, the mother learned about the segulah of saying Asher Yatzar slowly, with kavanah, standing still, and reading it from a printed card. She began doing this every single time. Just a few weeks later, her son was miraculously healed. The doctors were stunned. The mother also said that recently, while shopping, she needed to use the restroom but couldn't find her Asher Yatzar card. She felt torn—not wanting to lose her kavanah. Just then, as if sent from Heaven, a man walked in and hung up an Asher Yatzar card on the wall. She was overwhelmed with gratitude. Hashem had answered her need at the perfect moment. We could thank Hashem every minute of our lives and still not come close to what He deserves. But the thanks we do give—if offered with heart and focus—can be incredibly powerful. Let us treasure every breath, every heartbeat, and every functioning cell—and use our moments of awareness to thank the One who never stops giving. If anyone would like to read a short write-up on specific kavanot to have during Asher Yatzar, click on the link at the bottom of today's transcript. To receive the email, you can sign up at livingemunah.com or send a request to livingemunah123@gmail.com . https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fi/pyh95lif97je64ncdavei/Asher-yatzar-booklet-inside.pdf?rlkey=ypna9iig1pfqhrmif6bzpktqt&st=1ti1iv74&dl=0…
For a 10% discount on Rabbi David Ashear's new book LIVING EMUNAH VOL 8 click the link below https://www.artscroll.com/Books/9781422644645.html A man in Israel who works in the sound system industry bought a large van to transport his heavy equipment. Before using it for business, he made a personal commitment to first use it for a mitzvah—to do a chesed for someone else. He posted an ad offering his services but didn't receive any responses. Eager to begin using his new van for parnasah but determined to keep his word, he sat in the parked van one day and prayed sincerely that Hashem send him a mitzvah opportunity. Just minutes later, an avreich walked out of his kollel, saw the van, and knocked on the window. He asked the man if he could help him move apartments for just 300 shekels. The man agreed on the condition that others help carry the furniture. He ended up spending hours over the next few days helping the avreich move. When the job was done, he refused to accept any payment. The avrech was overwhelmed with gratitude. He told the man that he had been praying for days to find someone who could help him move at an affordable cost. The man was thrilled to be the one Hashem had chosen to answer that tefillah. He then asked the avreich if he could speak to the kollel to give them some chizuk. He shared how just a few years earlier he was drowning in debt with no way out. Then he read a book about the segulah of saying Birkat Hamazon slowly, with kavanah, and with joy. He also internalized a critical truth: his parnasah did not come from his work, but only from Hashem. He realized a person could work day and night and make nothing—or work just a little and earn a fortune. Everything is determined solely by Hashem. After that shift in perspective and practice, his debts disappeared and his business began to thrive. Another story was shared by a man named Yehuda, who still learns full-time in kollel. Ten years ago, he was eating at someone's home who honored Shabbat in a special way. When it came time for Birkat Hamazon , the host brought out a beautifully handwritten Birkat Hamazon written on klaf , like a mezuzah. The host explained he only used it on Shabbat, to give honor to the day. Yehuda was inspired and hoped that one day he, too, would own such a special item. Years passed. Yehuda recently mentioned to a friend that he was looking for a Birkat Hamazon on klaf and asked if he knew any sofer who might have one. The friend said it was rare and would likely be expensive. Two days later, that same friend told him he had just met a sofer who happened to have one available. Yehuda went to see it and was amazed—it was exactly what he had imagined, with inserts for all the holidays and beautifully handwritten. The sofer said the price was $1,500 but was willing to sell it for $1,000. Yehuda asked if he could pay $100 a month over 10 months, but the sofer said he couldn't do that. Yehuda turned to Hashem and said, "Hashem, this Birkat Hamazon is Yours. I know You can give it to me even if I can't afford it. Just because I can't buy it doesn't mean You can't give it." He prayed with real emunah that Hashem would find a way. A few days later, a friend told Yehuda he had just bought a Birkat Hamazon on klaf as a gift for someone, but that person couldn't use it because it didn't have vowels. Yehuda asked to see it, and to his astonishment, it was the exact same Birkat Hamazon he had hoped to buy. The friend had no use for it and gave it to Yehuda as a gift—for free. Hashem can give us everything we need. The more we believe in His absolute control over our parnasah, the more blessing it brings into our lives.…
For a 10% discount on Rabbi David Ashear's new book LIVING EMUNAH VOL 8 click the link below https://www.artscroll.com/Books/9781422644645.html People sometimes see others giving millions to tzedakah and wonder why they don't have the same zechut to give such large amounts. Others see children with exceptional middot and ask themselves, "Why do they have such great children, while ours are so difficult?" Some struggle to grasp even the basics of Torah learning, while others seem to understand the most complex sugyot effortlessly. It's natural to wonder why Hashem didn't give everyone equal opportunity, especially when the purpose of this world is to serve Him. In Parashat Chukat, we read how the Jewish people complained when they had no water. The pasuk says: " וירב העם עם משה ויאמרו לאמר ולו גוענו בגוע אחינו לפני ה '" They quarreled with Moshe and said they wished they had died like the rest of the people in the desert. They asked why he brought them out of Egypt just to die in a wasteland. This happened almost 40 years after they left Egypt—this was the new generation that was supposed to enter Eretz Yisrael—and yet they were speaking just like their parents had. Moshe could have thought that everything he had done over the past 40 years was for nothing. He had worked so hard to prepare this nation to be Am Hashem and build the Beit HaMikdash, and now it seemed like nothing had changed. But as Rav Shimshon Raphael Hirsch explains, a person is not judged by results—because results are in Hashem's hands. A person's greatness is measured by effort and pure intentions. We don't know Hashem's calculations. We don't know why things turn out one way for one person and another way for someone else. But we do know we are sent here with a mission—to act the way Hashem wants us to act, regardless of the outcome. Some people appear to succeed in life with very little effort, while others see little success despite their hardest work. A person who has a brilliant mind and understands the Gemara instantly, yet doesn't review or put in much effort, receives little reward for that understanding—it was a gift from Hashem. On the other hand, someone who works tirelessly to understand even a little, even if he never reaches the same level, will be rewarded far more for his toil. Parents who are blessed with children who naturally have strong middot and a love for Torah, yet do little to raise them that way, will not receive nearly the same reward as parents who devote hours upon hours to raising children with learning disabilities or challenging personalities—even if those children struggle. Hashem rewards effort , not results. A person struggling to make ends meet might earn more reward for a small donation than a wealthy person who gives large amounts easily. It's all relative. What matters is how hard it was to give, not how much was given. A rebbe who teaches day after day and sees no apparent nachat from his students is not a failure. Results are not in his hands. Effort is. Hashem pays us for our hishtadlut —our effort—not our outcome. Imagine if Rabbi Akiva had given up after losing his 24,000 students. The world would have missed some of the greatest sages who ever lived. But he didn't give up. He started again. He knew that his mission came from Hashem, and that the results were not the measure of his success. The Gemara tells us that after 120 years, a person will be asked: " עסקת בפריה ורביה ?" —Were you involved in trying to build a family? It doesn't say, "Did you succeed?" because that part is not up to us. We are also asked, " קבעת עתים לתורה ?" —Did you set times to learn? Not, "Did you master Torah?" Everyone truly does have equal opportunity—because everyone is judged by their effort, not their results. And effort is something that each of us can choose to give, every single day.…
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