In this episode, James and Lisa reflect on the lessons learned from 2024 and share practical steps for designing a thriving marriage in 2025. From navigating challenges like caregiving and career transitions to building a vision for the future, this conversation will inspire and equip you to create a marriage filled with intention and growth. What …

In this episode of Art of Spousing, James and Lisa give listeners a behind-the-scenes look at their creative process as they develop a new framework for marriage growth: The Flywheel of Momentum. They share five key priorities that, when practiced intentionally, create synergy and depth in a marriage. From foundational communication to fostering gr…

In today’s powerful episode, James and Lisa welcome Ray and Linda, a couple who overcame deep challenges in their marriage, including a rare and often misunderstood condition called Intimacy Anorexia (IA). Ray and Linda share how this condition impacted their marriage for decades, creating emotional distance and loneliness, even while they appeared…

In this episode, James and Lisa explore the concept of liminality—the “in-between” seasons of marriage where uncertainty reigns, and you’re not quite where you were, but not yet where you’re going. Whether you're in a major life transition, feeling stuck, or simply unsure of what's next, this episode offers practical advice to navigate these challe…

In this episode, James and Lisa return after a few months break to kick off a new season! They take us on a journey through the whirlwind of life changes they’ve faced, from becoming "empty nesters" to James' major career shift and Lisa’s experience caring for her mother. Together, they unpack how they navigated this season of transitions, challeng…

Merry Christmas, and welcome to the season four finale of the Art of Spousing Podcast! As we wrap up another incredible season, we're grateful for the journey we've shared and excited for what Season 5 will bring. In this episode, we're diving into the heart of Christmas, exploring traditions and memories that make this season so special. We remini…

In this heartwarming episode of Art of Spousing, we welcome Terry and Carol Moss, whose story is a testament to the beauty of God's grace and the power of second chances in marriage. With humor, honesty, and a deep faith, the Mosses open up about their journey from individual struggles and growth to finding unexpected love and unity in a blended fa…

In this episode of "The Art of Spousing" podcast, hosts James and Lisa bring their unique perspectives to the table, discussing the complexities and joys of marriage and family life. We start off with a light-hearted reflection on our own experiences, setting the tone for an episode filled with warmth, humor, and insightful discussions. They revisi…

Do you want to deepen your connection and foster a greater understanding in your relationship? Are you seeking a solution to enhance the love between you and your spouse? Look no further. Dr. Scott Symington joins us to share the key to achieving a heightened bond and a more profound connection with your spouse. Discover how intentional acts of lov…

Do you long for a marriage that not only survives adversity but thrives in the face of it? Are you seeking inspiration and guidance to strengthen your relationship? Look no further because today we have a special guest, Jeremy and Kourtney Roseberry, who will be sharing the key to achieving a resilient and flourishing marriage. They have overcome i…

In this episode of the Art of Spousing podcast, hosts James Duvall and Lisa Duvall dive into the importance of grace and humility in marriage. They've learned a thing or two about this topic through their own experiences and want to share their insights with you. They discuss the power of viewing your spouse through a lens of value, celebrating the…

In this episode, James and Lisa welcome Cole and Karissa Robinson to the podcast. They share their love story, which begins with an "arranged marriage". Cole's shares candidly about his commitment issues. They hilariously recount breaking up after an introduction to Cole's mother at Disney. Despite three breakups, Karissa stuck with Cole, and they …

In this episode, Lisa and James discuss the importance of trust in marriage and relationships. The hosts emphasize that trust is the glue that holds all relationships together and can be built over time through small moments, but can also be broken in an instant. They discuss the concepts of trust builders and trust busters in relationships, sharin…

In this compelling episode, we explore the powerful impact of the past on our present and future. We dive deep into a conversation about the destructive force of pornography on marriages and relationships, guided by their insightful guests Travis and Adelle Graham of The Noble Marriage. Topics discussed include the journey of healing from infidelit…

In this episode of the Art of Spousing Podcast, hosts James and Lisa dive into the topic of misunderstandings in marriage and provide practical tips to strengthen communication and prevent tensions. They highlight that misunderstandings are normal and even healthy in a relationship, and emphasize the importance of addressing and discussing them. Th…

In this episode of the podcast, James and Lisa talk with guests, Greg and Julie Gorman, founders of Married for a Purpose. The Gormans share their recent trip to Africa and the impact they had on couples there. They discuss the challenges and benefits of working together as a couple and the importance of setting boundaries. They also provide recomm…

Welcome to the preview episode of Season 4 of the "Art of Spousing" podcast. In this 19-minute teaser, your hosts James and Lisa give you a sneak peek into the season ahead. James and Lisa highlight the various topics that will be covered and guests who will appear throughout Season 4, giving listeners a taste of what's to come. This season promise…

Welcome to the Art of Spousing Podcast! We're thrilled to have you here as we dive into today's topic: in-laws, or as we like to call them, "in-loves." This is a significant aspect of marriage that requires careful navigation and setting boundaries. In this episode, we'll share practical strategies to strengthen your relationship with your in-laws …

As a parent, we strive to raise our children to be independent individuals. That's why we were intrigued when we learned about the Journey to Independence: Four Stages of Parenting. In this episode of the Art of Spousing podcast, we discuss the different stages of parenting and how parents can navigate each stage successfully. The first stage is th…

In this episode, James and Lisa talk about their experiences with commitment - from when they were in college to now - and share practical tools that listeners can use to transform their relationships from mundane to masterpiece level. They dive into the three types of commitment, first introduced by Penn. State University Sociology Professor Dr. M…

In today’s episode of the Artist Spousing podcast, we’re exploring the profound impact that practicing gratitude can have on marriage and, more specifically, on sexual intimacy. Studies have shown that gratitude is essential in any relationship, and toxic relationships are often void of gratitude. Through experiencing moments of thankfulness, coupl…

Are you tired of falling into the same old patterns in your marriage? Do you want to deepen your connection with your spouse? Look no further than this episode of Art of Spousing. Lisa and James speak with Beth and Jeff McCord, founders of Your Enneagram Coach and authors of two books focused on using the Enneagram to create stronger, gospel-center…

Despite their busy lives, Beth and Jeff McCord never could have imagined that the Enneagram would lead them on a journey of profound discovery and transformation - not just in their own marriage and parenting, but in the lives of their Christian community as well. What was this unexpected twist and how did it bring healing and wholeness to their re…

In this episode James and Lisa have a conversation with Shaunti Feldhahn, co-author of the book "Secrets of Sex and Marriage." The episode tackles one of the most taboo topics in most relationships - Sex in marriage. Shaunti and her co-author, renowned sex therapist Michael Sytsma, spent three years and $120,000 on a research project involving inte…

Are you looking for ways to improve your marriage? If so, then this podcast episode is for you! James and Lisa discovered new truths about their relationship, even after 30 years of marriage. They share a personal experience that led to some realizations in their marriage, believing that their podcast can help you take your marriage from survival m…

On this week's episode of the Art of Spousing podcast, listeners will hear from Don and Joy Bray, a couple who have been married for 58 years and are considered a godly example of longevity and vibrancy in marriage. Don and Joy share their story with the podcast hosts, discussing the significant choices they have made to create their masterpiece ma…

Are you struggling to connect physically with your partner in your marriage? Do you feel like you're unsure where to start or perhaps lack the confidence to initiate touch? In this episode, hosts Lisa and James discuss the importance of physical touch in a marriage and how it can improve intimacy, reduce stress and anxiety, and strengthen the bond …

Chris and Jamie Bailey use their journey of overcoming dysfunction to offer real hope and practical tools to other couples through their podcast, courses, and social media, showing that you're never "too far gone" for God to redeem your situation. "It's not the problems that take you out in your marriage. It's what you do with them. It's how you ch…

James and Lisa continue the conversation around how to create an emotionally safe environment in your marriage by actively implementing four practices; giving and receiving forgiveness, validating each other's feelings, being willing to compromise, and seeking professional help. "Even if you're responsible for only 2% of the issue, you're still 100…

Lisa and James teach how to create an emotionally safe marriage and foster a lasting bond of love and trust! To create an emotionally safe environment in your marriage, it is important to avoid criticism, contempt, and defensiveness. "Don't let small offenses build up. If you can't get over something in 24 hours, then you need to have a conversatio…

Experience the power of spiritual intimacy in marriage and learn to trust God's divine plan when He tells you to "go" with Danielle and Howard's story. "God gave us a very specific template in how to nurture marriage and serve in the marriage space, because we found through Facebook Live, it was like a great litmus test to the fact that people were…

We have learned that expressing extraordinary love to one another is not only important for a thriving marriage, but is also a way to demonstrate God's love to the world. Through the Bible passage of 1 Corinthians 13, we found three practices to level up our love: patience and kindness, forgiveness, and building endurance. By doing these things, we…

Ted Lowe reveals a startling truth about the secret to a great marriage--that it's not the opposite of a struggling marriage, but something different--he embarks on a journey to help couples shift their thinking and focus on the positive to experience true marital bliss. "It's so great to have people in this space like you guys that are co champion…

When striving for a masterpiece marriage, couples must avoid complacency by proactively prioritizing time, practicing honest communication, investing in the relationship, keeping romance alive, and exercising spontaneity. We share Six Practises For Avoiding Complacency in Your Marriage on the Artist Spousing Podcast. These practices can help preven…

Greg and Julie Gorman, desperate to rekindle their struggling marriage and provide hope for other couples, embarked on a powerful journey to create their Marriage Reboot - a one-on-one, two-to-three day intensive to reset, unify, and reignite marriages. "We become what we think about. If I'm thinking, okay, don't think about what a jerk Greg is. Do…

A determined husband and wife can make this their best year of marriage yet, proactively investing in themselves and each other to find the hope they need to overcome the 92% of New Year's goals that fail.You will learn how to unlock the secrets of a successful marriage and discover why intentionally investing in your relationship is key. This epis…

"The best instructions come from the creator of a product." We've been married for 30 years, and one of the things that has helped us stay strong is that we've been intentional about our intimacy. We've always put God first in our marriage, and we've been intentional about growing in our spiritual, emotional, and sexual intimacy. We wish we would h…

This is Christopher and Jasmine Catoe's story... I'm a worship leader at Christ Fellowship Church and my wife, Jasmine, is a content producer. We met in middle school and have been married for almost three years. Recently, we took an enneagram test and discovered that I am actually a five, not a one like we thought. This was a bit of a shock to me,…

In this episode, you will learn the following: 1. The Support Challenge Matrix: a tool for empowering relationships 2. The four quadrants of the Support Challenge Matrix: Protector, Dominator, Abdicator, Liberator 3. The consequences of living in each quadrant of the Support Challenge Matrix Resources: Schedule a Discovery Call about Marriage Reboo…

Gabe and Casey Mahia are a young couple who have only been married for two years, but they have already learned a lot about themselves and each other. One of the things that Gabe has learned about Casey is that she is a self-proclaimed enneagram six. For those of you who are not familiar with the enneagram, it is a tool of empathy that reveals core…

For a marriage to be secure and strong, you need to build a pro marriage collective, a community with like minded, growth minded couples. "The people you spend the most time with will change you in ways you cannot anticipate or ever fully understand." Over the last 30 years, we have surrounded ourselves with couples who are pro-marriage. They are a…

Brandon and Michelle Catoe are long-time friends of the hosts of the Art of Spousing podcast. They have been married for almost 27 years and have two adult children. Brandon is a three on the enneagram and Michelle is a six. They have both been involved in ministry for many years and currently serve on the senior leadership team at their church. Th…

The Art of Spousing Podcast tackles the reasons for money causing tension in marriage and provides tools to combat the stressors. "An ounce of disciplines weighs far less than a ton of regret" - Jim Rohn Lisa and I have different money styles. I tend to be a saver, while she is more of a spender. This can cause tension in our relationship, especial…

Grant and Stephanie Gardner are high school sweethearts who have been married for 38 years. They are the founders of Forever with Purpose, a ministry that empowers marriages to maximize their vision and purpose. They are also the hosts of the Pillow Talk with Grant and Stephanie podcast. "I always say that, we were knocked up, but not out. we got o…

By building on common ground, you can strengthen your marriage. "Couples who know how to play and have fun together develop a bonding that can carry them through the most difficult times." Lisa and I were talk about strengthening our marriage by building on common ground. We discussed how marriages built on common ground have the ability to stand u…

In this episode, James and Lisa talk with Dave and Bethany Kush, who share their lifelong journey of learning and growth as a couple, in light of the Enneagram. "Oh, my gosh, now everybody knows. They see me with all my flaws. I felt like I'm standing in front of a crowd wearing just my underpants." Dave and Bethany Kush are a couple who have been …

When committed love, emotional intimacy, and passion collide, the result is a work of art called marriage. "Love is more than a feeling and deeper than a crafty slogan or a line of a song." Today we're talking about love. The word love is described in so many different ways. Some make sense. Some are just silly. Some talk about love. Some try to de…

"The Enneagram's effect on marriage." is not about: 1. The Enneagram is a perfect tool for predicting compatibility in marriage. 2. The Enneagram can help identify and correct relationship problems. 3. The Enneagram can help couples resolve conflicts and improve communication. Do you know your Enneagram type? It just might be the key to a happy mar…

Are you dealing with any of this? 1. You may feel like your partner isn't listening to you or understanding your feelings. 2. You may feel like you're always the one giving and never receiving. 3. Your partner may not be meeting your needs emotionally or physically. "So one of my favorite leadership teachers, Jim Rohn, taught small errors in judgme…

If you're looking for a marriage that will last, look no further than Justin and Andrea Lathrop. "The greatest gift Justin has been in my life was to kind of model for me and perfectly, of course, like unconditional love and that it wasn't based on my performance, which ties into my enneagram number, too." Justin and Andrea Lathrop are a married co…